2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
24 days have passed since the tragedy occurred in the city of Krymsk, which claimed the lives of many hundreds of people and in a matter of hours overturned universal human moral foundations, political, civic views and convictions.
On the morning of July 31, 2012, I came to a meeting with a woman (hereinafter I will call her Vera), who told that the consequences of the flood for her were not limited to the loss of material values and the fact that all her free time she was forced to work tirelessly removing garbage, cleaning and drying the walls, knocking the thresholds of local administrative institutions for days.
“After the events of that night, I am haunted by the memories of what happened,” she said, identifying the problem that caused my visit to her.
A further description of the flood that occurred on that memorable night was conveyed in bright, clear tones from the first person in the present tense.
- I go out into the yard and see the water. She rises quickly. I go into the house, take the documents, I understand that I cannot leave the house anymore, overcoming the stream I go up to the second floor.
Listening to Vera's story, I noticed that her gaze was directed towards the basement and fixed at a distance of 1-1.5 m. from her, excluding those moments when she described internal experiences, sensations, feelings - at this time she was immersed in herself (on the physical plane, this was expressed by a change in posture, which became more closed).
During the further conversation, we moved on to the most pressing issues in the coming days.
- Now for me the primary task is to restore the business, but during this time I am so tired that my hands simply do not rise. I don't feel rested in the morning. Depression and apathy in the last days do not leave me.
During the discussion of this problem, I have carried out a smooth replacement of the term "recovery" for "uplift", "expansion". As a result, Vera's gaze changed its direction towards the stairs, along which she escaped and her head was raised. At this point, I proposed to climb the stairs and get acquainted with the exercise, which later will allow, as necessary, to enter the resource state.
We went up to the second floor. I invited Vera to sit comfortably in the chair and, taking a deep breath, close my eyes as I exhale. I asked her to let her body relax and asked her imagination to move her to a place where she can breathe deeply, to where she can throw off the burden of worries …
The description of this place was as follows:
- I am in a green meadow, around bright, juicy, green grass … The air is clean, fresh …
“What would you like to do now?” I asked.
- Stay here, relax …
After I repeated the description of the air in the meadow, Vera took a deep breath and straightened her shoulders. I asked you to pay attention to what gives the energy of life, the energy of growth to this juicy, green grass.
- The grass receives energy from the earth, from the sun, cheerfulness from a light breeze …
After this answer, I asked Vera to become one with this world for a while, the world of harmony, purity, the world surrounded and saturated with the energy of life …
After completing this exercise, Vera shared her impressions:
- I felt that my whole body is filled with energy. The heaviness in my hands seemed to dissolve. I threw the weight off my shoulders, and they straightened. It became easier to breathe, the fatigue was gone.
Thanking her imagination for the work done, the woman went down with me to the first floor where our conversation began.
I asked Vera to recall the events of that night again and asked where she sees these events.
- Now I see that the water is there, beyond the threshold. I feel that she will leave soon …
After this description, I asked Vera to move mentally forward an hour and describe what happened to the image just described.
- The image has gone very far and no longer has clear boundaries … it seems to dissolve. I know that this is the past, I feel that it is behind …
At the end of our conversation, I asked the question: "What did you get as a result of our meeting?"
- Calmness, a sense of self-confidence, the realization that I have the strength to raise my business, restore and equip my home … that life goes on …
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