2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"She has been planning a child for a long time. And the tests, treacherously, show a negative result. There are many questions in her head, ranging from" What to do? "To" Why? " to kid"….
Now there are many approaches in the treatment of infertility, but in my article I want to touch on the psychological reasons that will allow you to look at the situation in a different way, and perhaps even open the way for further work with yourself, on yourself and for yourself - in such a natural desire, desire to be a mother.
Psychology, in recent years, one way or another goes side by side in the analysis of the reasons why women cannot have children. They talk about the psychological side when, after passing all the tests, it turns out that the cause is of an unclear genesis. This means that no violations were found from the medical side. And a couple, in all respects, can have children, which means they can become parents. Long-awaited parents.
One of the highlighted roles leading to the causes of psychological infertility is attributed to dealing with stress and other traumatic situations in a woman's lifethat occurred in the present and past tense. This is the way of "transferring" the psychological problem (trauma) to the physical body. This means that the provocation of psychological infertility is associated with the attitudes of a woman's personal life. More than once I had to deal with family stories (including family games between partners), in which internal patterns and beliefs about a woman's own motherhood were formed. As a rule, the emotional coloring of attitudes is associated with such feelings as fear, anger, horror.
For example, such a belief that the birth of a new member in the family is necessarily associated with the death of a relative (birth = death), or when, on a conscious level, a woman does a lot in order to get pregnant, and on the unconscious (which opens during therapy) - it turns out that all actions (both the choice of work and living conditions, etc.) are aimed at denying and not wanting to be a mother.
Thus, not pregnancy is born, but a lot of fears that can be individual and very specific, depending on the negativity and lack of elaboration. This is the fear of a future pregnancy (up to its denial, for example, using the phrases "I have never been pregnant and will not be."
And the main work here is aimed at reformulating this negative attitude - "I have not yet been diagnosed with pregnancy. I can be pregnant";
obsession with the desire to give birth; unconscious playing of negative games in a relationship with a partner, so as not to be a mother.
And then it becomes easier for the psyche to admit infertility than to face and live those traumatic situations and events that are in her life. It can be difficult memories of childhood (possibly associated with various types of violence or emotionally negative situations during developmental periods), unfavorable living conditions, and much more …
And then some kind of unconscious attitude appears that pregnancy is a danger, pregnancy is fear or even death….
Psychological infertility is a problem that cannot be harbored, the deeper a woman hides her personal experiences, accumulated feelings, the harder and longer-term work goes on in overcoming the "prohibitions on motherhood."
One of the ways to treat psychological infertility is to work with a psychologist using psychotherapy methods. And the combined cooperation of all areas (including medicine) will help a woman overcome the reasons and become a mother.
Best regards, Angelina Sergeevna.
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