2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Good afternoon dear friends!
Today I would like to discuss with you everyday concepts, i.e. such concepts that it is better not to use in psychotherapy, since in themselves they say little about nothing and only hang some labels on a person.
What concepts can they be? For example, laziness, greed …
What other everyday concepts do you know? I would be grateful if you would describe why you consider these concepts to be commonplace and give examples of suitable substitutions.
In the meantime, I will say a few words about greed.
What can we say about a person if such a label is stuck to him? Yes, practically nothing. It's just that something is so negative and that's it. And how is greed manifested? For example, a person saves money all the time, tries not to spend it, therefore he is greedy. Is it logical? It is logical, but, again, little is clear.
Why doesn't he spend? Why save? As with laziness, which I already wrote about in my notes, it is important to study a person's motivation. It is important to understand what these savings give him, why he is trying to save money. You can understand by asking a person! It is quite possible that money for him is some kind of symbol of security, therefore their presence gives confidence in the future.
Good! But here you can continue to study. Why is it so unsafe that he tries not to spend at all? What is so afraid of? Did he have something like this before, some difficult situation in life that he fears to get into? Or did his parents or ancestors have such a situation and the person simply adopted the way of thinking and acting from them, adopted and perceived it uncritically? You can ask a lot of questions on this topic. Great topic for study.
Well, it seemed that everything was so simple that he was just greedy, and that's it! And not everything is so simple in fact!
So, it is important to be attentive to other labels as well. It is important to disclose and study all incomprehensible or too, as it seems, understandable and obvious concepts, which at the everyday level, it seems, do not require explanation, cause the illusion of complete understanding.
I look forward to your feedback, I look forward to your examples!
I hope that by joint efforts we will make the world more understandable and people more tolerant of each other!
My contacts can be found here
Vladislav Mashin, psychologist
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