2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How does psychotherapy work?
People tend to evaluate what is happening through the prism of life experience. The brain is lazy: every second a lot of processes take place in it, so it tries to save energy. And when something happens, most often we consider the situation by analogy with what has already happened to us. We look one-sided, which affects our opinion, behavior and emotions. (Remember the picture where two men are looking at the same number from different sides, and one sees "6" and the other "9"?)
In such cases, psychotherapy can be very useful - it allows you to take a broader look at the situation. The work of a psychologist is similar to the function of a flashlight - we ask questions (not knowing the answer to them and not offering our options), as if we illuminate dark spots that the client does not see. Together we explore the darkest corners of the psyche - we find logical traps, explore values, emotions, notice how they affect behavior and relationships with other people.
And, perhaps, the most difficult task of the psychotherapist is to keep his opinion to himself. Because it can hurt the other person. The client, instead of finding his own answers, may accidentally "appropriate" strangers - see "9" instead of "6".
In this case, a person is deprived of the right to choose, the right to make his own mistakes. The feeling of responsibility for their actions is lost. It would seem that bad - the person is not mistaken? But in this way the client loses the most important thing - the feeling of living in his life, and begins to act according to someone else's scenario.
Yes, sometimes you can lean on the lantern like on a crutch, or, for example, use its heat to keep warm. But its main function is to illuminate what is hidden. So that later, seeing the whole picture, a person can live the whole gamut of emotions, make informed decisions and be the author of his own life.
Life hack how to choose a psychologist
The decision to go to a psychologist consultation takes a lot of courage and usually does not come easily. A person goes through a huge amount of doubt, fear and suffering before daring to take this step. It's scary to change, but you shouldn't be afraid. Psychotherapy is a big step towards a new, better life. And no one will force you to change anything without your desire.
When choosing a specialist, pay attention to your feelings and intuition. See if the contact is developing, how free and safe you feel in communication. It doesn't matter if it's a psychoanalyst, a psychotherapist, or a gestalt therapist. A psychologist is primarily a person with whom you should be comfortable working.
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