2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There is no other reality
except for the one we
we construct in relationships
(Gergen).
It is known that the therapist does not work with the client's objective reality. He is not able to change his objective reality - age, gender, physicality … He cannot even change the conditions of his life and environment - change his boss, mother-in-law, wife, add a salary …
What, in this case, is the subject of psychotherapeutic influence?
The therapist deals with the internal, subjective representation of the world in the mind of the client - with his subjective picture of the world (or the image of the world), the picture of the other (the image of the other), the picture of I (the image of I).
The therapist works with internal images of reality, which are always individual and bear the imprint of a person's personal experience and personal history. The client's internal image changes, and his internal position also changes. As a result, his behavior changes, his attitude to the world, others, to himself, and ultimately, in relation to him, the world also changes.
The therapist in the situation of the therapeutic process together with the client constructs a new reality for him - the reality of his I, the Other, the World.
The parable "The Mirror Room" serves as a good illustration of what has been said.
The disciple asked the dervish:
- Teacher, is the world hostile to man? Or does he bring good to a person?
“I’ll tell you a parable about how the world relates to a person,” said the teacher.
"A great shah lived a long time ago. He ordered to build a beautiful palace. There were many wonderful things. Among other wonders in the palace there was a hall where all the walls, ceiling, doors and even the floor were mirrored. The mirrors were unusually clear, and the visitor did not immediately understand that there was a mirror in front of him - they reflected objects so accurately. In addition, the walls of this hall were arranged so as to create an echo. You ask: "Who are you?" - and you will hear in response from different sides: "Who are you? Who are you? Who are you? "One day a dog ran into the hall and froze in amazement in the middle - a whole pack of dogs surrounded it from all sides, above and below. The dog bared its teeth just in case; and all the reflections answered it in the same way. The dog barked desperately. The echo echoed its barking. The dog barked louder. The echo did not lag behind. The dog rushed here and there, biting the air, its reflections also rushed around, snapping its teeth. In the morning the servants found the unfortunate dog lifeless, surrounded by millions of reflections of dead dogs. there was no one in the hall to harm her in any way. The dog died fighting its own reflections."
“Now you see,” the dervish finished, “the world brings neither good nor evil by itself. Everything that happens around us is just a reflection of our own thoughts, feelings, desires, actions. The world is a big mirror."
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