2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I started my journey wishing to come to terms with myself and live happier from the fact that I went to enter the Faculty of Psychology after school. I desperately wanted to understand myself, like everyone who goes there. I think it's not a secret for anyone that they go there, as a rule, to deal with their problems
Whoever was there, and botanists who wanted to sit with a smart look in an armchair, like Freud, and those who came exclusively to attend student spring and defend the honor of the faculty at all sorts of such events. And those who came, because it was easier to enter and if only where. And those as boys simply did not want to go to the army, but was with a "fine" mental organization. And those who were just getting higher education, and which did not matter.
By the fourth year, there were only future Freuds, the stars of the student spring and the dean's favorites in combination, mowing away from the army, and who stubbornly dealt with their problems.
I was one of those who dealt with my problems. The classes that began with the 4th course: group counseling, art therapy, psychotherapy and everything that had been so long awaited for the previous three years was a gift from heaven for me. Conversations with teachers, where you can ask those questions that excite you very much, find out what to read and who, were for me those "magic" pills that I ate. But after graduating from the university, which taught me a lot of lessons, I suddenly realized that the pills no longer help, and the tasks of my internal contradictions became different.
Everything changed, and so did I. Moving to Moscow posed new challenges and the search for solutions. Once a teacher told us that psychology is a disease. And I got sick with her. And she continued to search for "magic" pills. Already here in Moscow, I met many psychologists leading practice, went to consultations and attended trainings, learned about the thin line between psychology and esotericism, began to practice specific actions that psychologists recommended. Yes, I did everything and continue. Now, 10 years after university, I see my changes. I realized that there are no "magic" pills, that trainings that promise that your life will change dramatically later do not quite tell the truth. Yes, there are powerful trainings and programs, after which very, very much changes inside you, and as a result outside. But, there is no “magic” pill. And there is only your personal responsibility and the desire to pull yourself out of that, forgive the "ass" into which you pushed yourself. It's just that the consciousness of psychologists is much wider. Especially in moments of crises and depressions, it narrows a lot, and it seems to you that nothing but your problem exists. It seems to you that apart from the alcoholic's husband there is no other life, life without him. That besides the unloved work, there are not a million other activities that bring both pleasure and money. That dismissal from work is a sentence. That the loss of a loved one is the end of life, the only difference is that his life ended, and yours, well, just look out the window, it continues. People still walk there, life goes on and while you are alive, live.
And why am I saying all this. In addition to the fact that you may have to attend more than one training, do more than one exercise or technique yourself, which the psychologist recommended to you, go to any consultation, but…. But remember and do not forget that there is no “magic” pill that will pull you out of your “asshole”, that a psychologist is just a person who sees wider and more, and all the rest of the work to improve your life lies with you. Even for a psychologist, it is too ungrateful a burden to take responsibility for what happens in someone's life. Don't look for magic pills, look for someone who will expand your picture of life wider than you think. Then take responsibility and change yourself. And then life will change around you !!!
Author: Darzhina Irina Mikhailovna
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