2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Do all unclosed gestalts need to be closed?
What is an unfinished gestalt?
Gestalt means a certain configuration of processes associated with your need. You have a need, you are aware of it and you are looking for someone or something to satisfy. Satisfy this need and move on - a new need appears.
These cycles can be conventionally called gestalts. If the gestalt is incomplete (although the gestalt therapists themselves rarely use such a phrase), then this means that either your need is not realized and you are unconsciously trying to satisfy it, acting out the tension. Or you are aware of your need, but at a certain stage you end the cycle. This can happen because a perceived need you feel is embarrassing, or you are afraid to satisfy it.
Both the first and second options are similar to walking in a circle. In the first case, you find yourself in the same place of the conflict, but do not realize why, and in the second, you realize why you got to this place, but still stop the process.
Incomplete gestalts in life tend to get in the way. If you got out of a relationship without ending this relationship, left work without getting recognition, and finally grew up without being small - these are all unfinished gestalts.
The results of Zeigarnik's classic experiment argue that interrupted actions or situations do acquire some special "status" in memory. The brain returns to them over and over again.
This is scientific, if you want - gestalts have to be closed.
Unlived trauma needs to be lived in, but there is also a downside to the process.
Sometimes it is better to postpone the closing of the gestalt
It is about analyzing and understanding what is happening to us.
If a person knows a lot and can find a cause-and-effect relationship, this suggests that he is smart, or very scared and smart, but does not mean that he is more aware of himself. If you stop in your life and try to understand what is happening to you and why, you will become more competent in your neurosis, but this may even complicate the process of change, rather than speed it up.
Understanding works the other way around.
Because the moment you feel that your life, the approach to it and the ways to build contact do not suit you, and are trying to analyze it, what are you doing? That tension that is, that vital energy that you have accumulated, you channel into attempts to build a concept. That is, you will, of course, explain why you are there and there, but you will not be able to look for alternatives.
Awareness has a different front of work.
If you are faced with shame, fear or guilt, never fight with them or try to understand them - it is pointless. Moreover, if you explain it, it will be some kind of endpoint.
A closed gestalt, in this case, may look like a sentence. - I am too unsure of myself, because as a child I was not allowed to express my opinion. I'm too ashamed to speak in public because I fell off my chair in kindergarten. Everything. The situation is clear and understandable. This is the ending in your head. You have now accepted that you are too insecure or shy.
A person who understands why he does not develop relationships with other people loses the need to change
Those actions that we have not completed remain in our memory longer. And they tend to stimulate us to change. If we explain what is happening, then the gestalt, sort of like, closes and nothing needs to be changed.
Energy you can spend either on understanding or on awareness.
We are changing through innovation. Why aren't the desired changes taking place in our life? Because we notice only what we notice and do not see anything that would contradict this situation.
You only see what you are ready to see. The revolution will happen the moment you ask yourself “ what else? »
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