2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The choice of a partner for a woman is always a very important issue. From some of the fair sex, you can often hear the statement that they need a strong and intelligent man for life and relationships. At the same time, they often complain that there are very few such men or they do not meet such men. Here women are cunning, but the whole point is in the experience that they had previously acquired. Quite often, such women already have an established position in life, on many issues, including what a relationship with a man should be. A distinctive feature of such women is that in life they are accustomed to taking a position "from above", leading, commanding, making decisions on their own, on any issues. Moreover, women themselves consider this approach quite natural.
When such a woman meets a strong and confident man, it scares her quite a lot. It is not even the man himself who is afraid, but his self-confidence, the ability to make independent decisions. At the same time, a woman realizes that with such a man she will no longer be able to constantly occupy a position “from above”, she will have to rebuild and sometimes be in a position “from below”. At such moments, some women get the impression that there is something humiliating in this for them. And taking into account the existing experience and the habitual model of behavior, for some women this is simply unbearable.
Naturally, in such a situation, a woman, not even always consciously, begins to defend herself. She does this, trying to force a man (strong) to bend, she begins to press either intellect, or authority, or social status, but most often with a truly strong and self-confident man, these actions do not bring any result, except for conflicts … Sometimes, a woman, realizing that all her attempts to single-handedly influence the development of relations have failed, seek to break off the relationship. Despite the fact that initially she claimed that she needed a strong man. At the same time, explaining the reasons for the gap to herself and those around her, she says that they did not agree in character or something similar.
In fact, in this the woman is lying to herself. It is lying, since the reason for the breaks in such a relationship is not entirely in the characteristics of the characters, although in them too. Some women are very scared to change their position in relation to a man. They cannot accept the fact that someone will make decisions, especially significant ones, for them. And the point is not at all that a man-despot decides everything himself, but that a woman ceases to be a full-fledged leader and to play the role to which she is so accustomed. Those who were able to do this often get the result in the relationship that they wanted.
Change is always a painful process, but it should be understood that if the used model of behavior does not lead to the results that one wanted to get, then it must be changed. You can convince yourself as much as you like that you are right, but life is a very tough teacher and will always give fair marks.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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