Ode To Women's Freedom

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Have fun. Have fun, honey

At the disco in heels above 12. At the resort in a cheeky transparent pareo. At the skating rink-bowling-bike path-in karaoke. Break away from the dullness, boredom, dullness, talk about prices, politics, break away from the eternal hiss about "what bastards they are." Have fun! Get your ass off the couch, off the office chair, off the leather seat. Break away from the fridge and greasy sandwich, idle talk, unbearable work and bad relationships. It is difficult, scary, but you still come off, the wounds will heal, the feeling of heroism and the unbearable lightness of being will remain.

Open up

I know that soft and lively people are hit more often. But it's not all bad, is it? You are not a soldier in a besieged city, but a woman in a relatively peaceful time. Give them a chance. To see, to feel, to identify “our own, dear”. Open yourself to love, new acquaintances, casual flirting, compliment of a passer-by. I'll tell you a secret: there, inside, there is such a precious vessel. The more good in him - joy, smiles, happiness - the less bad will get. There just isn't enough room, you know? Therefore, open up and fill yourself to the brim with gifts, emotions, impressions. This is wealth, and you are a treasure, you know?

Love

Not as it is written in books about relationships, but in reality. Carry him coffee, scratch his heels, because he will iron your shoulder blades, buy chocolates, put up a tent … There is no reason to weigh and change your mind three hundred times, which of us is worthy of what. You are not the Lord God, and you are not a guardian of justice, so that everyone deserves it. Love in advance, without calculation and reflection, just love, and do not listen to any "women's advice", because love happiness is strictly individual, not collective. Custom tailoring, exclusive, personal business, if you want.

Be rude

And do not even think about it, be rude sharply, backhand when they step on your wings or spit into your soul. When they press your child or speak harshly about a loved one. When they are rude to your parents. Stop negotiating with terrorists, learn a couple of "killer phrases" from modern TV series and fight back the offenders. Because it will cost you a hundred times more to swallow a grudge and cry out of pity for yourself and your family than to feel like a bitch for 2 seconds. Put the impudent in place, close the topic, spread your wings, and remember: you are not one of those. You can't do that. And let them know.

Give

Everything that you are not up to, give to the one who needs it very much. A sandwich, a little money, an extra dress, an extra gentleman, if you are "not very much", but to someone - "a matter of life", give it back. Who knows what games are being started there in heaven, feel like a good fairy, illuminate with the joy of another. I do not know if your kindness will return a hundredfold to you, but the fact that at this moment you will feel wonderful is true.

Fall

Faint if he doesn’t understand anything and doesn’t start kissing: it’s checked, I’ve seen such a technique in the movies. Fall on the rink so that he can nobly carry you in his arms - well, who refuses to be a hero? Fall on the hill, roll in the snow so that he can rub your chilly fingers later. In the end, you may experience disorientation from overwhelming feelings.

And further. Fall down when it hurts and feels bad. This also happens, infrequently, but it does happen. I know you try to hold your back and stand. Stop pretending to be a terminator, don't, fall into your sadness, to the very bottom, into a warm swamp. Lie there as long as you want. And then - push yourself harder - and upward, towards the light. After tears, after a pause, you will want the sun again, and you know where it is. You have the right to experience and live your feelings, so fall, because you know exactly where to get up.

Lie

To my husband about her kilograms and prices for cosmetics, to mother about her husband and prices in stores, to a child about the truth of life, a friend about her husband and his colleague. Take care of them and do not grieve in vain. "Who needs your truth?" - one famous PR man told me, and he was right. How many wonderful relationships have been hacked to pieces by principled truth-lovers, but everything could be different. After all, you are already slightly embellishing reality: your nails are not scarlet, and your eyelids are not silvery-beige, and your lips are not coral. Do not be selfish: if you care about your beauty, care about the beauty of your relationship. A light slyness, a joke and a mysterious smile in your arsenal are as irreplaceable as a bottle of your favorite perfume and lip gloss.

Tear

Old receipts, photographs, reports and reports. Break the relationship when you are unbearable, stop “treating” them and knitting them with a sea knot - see how many knots have already been imposed? Do not overgrow with rubbish, do not, you have a long and bright life, do not drag unnecessary things around the world with you.

Drink

Drink for joy and sorrow. A sip of good wine does wonders better than Copperfield. First, it's delicious, fun, and even a little healthy. And secondly, how many wonderful alliances have started under an innocent glass of champagne, how many sorrows have melted away with a slight morning hangover! Smart and strong men sometimes “untie their ties” and only win. Learn from them. Look: if under the head (light! The main thing is not to overdo it!) You allow yourself a little liberty - you are forgiven, there is an excuse, "I don't remember anything." And if you suddenly pull out the main lottery ticket - who will figure it out, why are you lucky?

Sing it

In the bathroom, on the road, at karaoke, in the kitchen, and in general, everywhere. Just please, learn a repertoire of something about happiness, about beautiful love, about joy, look, try. Even if they tell you about the herds of bears and your ears, if the neighbors demand soundproofing, and your loved one - amnesty, spit, you are not in La Scala. A good song, sung with pleasure, better than any mantra and prayer, tunes your soul into a major mood, and let the music critics take care of Stas Mikhailov, if anything.

Be

At an exhibition, in a museum, in a theater, in a cafe, on a city holiday, on a visit, on a fishing trip, on the beach. I know that a lot of things to do and 24 hours - your heap will wait. You know, I read that small children who are not stroked or caressed can get sick - right up to critical cases. We will not allow this, will we? Stroke yourself, give yourself discoveries, impressions, pleasures, taste the world, smell, touch. I don’t want you to get sick and feel undernourished for pleasures in this madly rushing world.

Let's hit the road

At the first opportunity. Anywhere. For the next salary, we will buy you a beautiful comfortable travel case and light moccasins. And promise me you will update them as soon as possible! Look, besides Christmas, Easter and the official holidays, there are 104 legal days off per year, almost a third of the year. On a journey (or even to a neighboring city!), The world opens up and miracles begin. I subtly hint: all amazing transformations with heroines happen exactly on the way, take at least Alice through the Looking Glass, at least Elizabeth Gilbert, Cinderella again, who dared to leave the castle, and a thousand more examples. If you want to change your destiny, change your path, say the wise. So - forward, for a new suitcase, shoes and a new destiny.

Well, when everything is completely incomprehensible - sleep. In the morning you wake up, look out the window, sing a song, and start all over again. Every morning, every awakening "zero karma", forget all the bad, and take the good with you on a new day. You have every right to start a new life every day.

… to sing again, to fall, to give, to pack a suitcase, and most importantly - to love …

by @Julia Broiak