2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What is the difference between the first and the second? In other words: if you want to become rich and successful, don't go to psychotherapy. A categorical statement, isn't it? But this is partly true. Why is that? Personal growth - from the word growth, involves the acquisition of some qualities to achieve efficiency. If you want to become successful in your field, you can focus on the qualities necessary for this field. For example, you want to become a successful coach, speaker, or actor. What do you need? Good diction, open gestures, the amount of knowledge on the desired topic - all this you acquire. You learn all this, in other words "pump" yourself. This is personal growth. You grow and develop, strive for personal effectiveness, motivate yourself and achieve. Today there are many ways to "pump" yourself and acquire knowledge. You can learn everything you need and achieve a lot by organizing your life so that you go up the stairs.
Grow up. Develop.
Why doesn't psychotherapy help this?
Psychotherapy is more of a movement in breadth than an upward movement, if you try to describe it mathematically. You gain nothing in psychotherapy other than what is already in you. Psychotherapy is not a "pumping" of personal qualities and not an instruction on how to achieve effectiveness. This is "excavation" of oneself and acquaintance with oneself. And that can be a great distraction from efficiency.
Psychotherapy does not contradict success, it makes that success a little more voluminous than you imagined.
Like this?
For example, suppose you want to become an actor all your life and learn the art. You probably don't know why you want to be an actor, but you know exactly what to do for this. You go to castings, chat, take courses, attend lectures by famous actors who share tips on how to advance in their profession.
You grow up, but volume suggests intrinsic motivation.
Why do you want to become an actor?
What's stopping you?
What needs are behind this desire?
How do you know you want to become an actor and not a lawyer?
Personal growth involves development without answering these questions. Psychotherapy presupposes an acquaintance with the inner content of this desire.
And often leads to the fact that desire loses its relevance.
If personal growth is focused on external motivation, then psychotherapy works with internal content.
In order to be charged with someone else's success, it is enough to go to the training of a person who is successful in his field, but this motivation may not be enough for a long time. It is external, it is not yours.
If you go to psychotherapy, you are looking for an inner drive, and this can lead to unexpected results.
You may find you don’t want to be an actor, you don’t need to. You may realize that the life you are living is not yours in some way. You may notice that you have different needs and desires than those you have seen before.
Personal growth has a direction - it's up and straight. Psychotherapy also has, but this direction is inward. Sometimes these directions do not intersect, but there is a very important "but".
If you find yourself and your true desires, success is guaranteed! Because all the energy is in needs, and when you are aware of them, it will be easier to move forward. Therefore, if you want to become rich and successful, psychotherapy will help you. It's just not so right away, and this path will be longer, deeper and not as straightforward as in the case of external motivation and charge.
Recommended:
About Rapists Of Personal Growth And Violent Trainings
You've probably heard the idea more than once that everything in life is achieved through stress? That in order to get something - you need to roll up your sleeves and figure it out. Of course, first of all, we are talking about work, raising the level of wages.
💥 CHILDFREY, PERSONAL LONELINESS AND HORMONES. 💥 WHY I DO NOT WANT A FAMILY AND CHILDREN - THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION YOU WILL FIND IN THE ARTICLE. 💥 PSYCHOLOGIST TIPS
Childfree, personal loneliness and hormones. This article was written by me specifically for those who wish to understand the phenomenon of "Childfree" in modern culture, to understand the psychology of these people. But especially for the respected childfree women and men themselves
The Pitfalls Of Personal Growth And Training
As always, I describe my personal experience and what I witnessed watching people who “floated in the same direction” with me and do not pretend to be objective. My article is purely subjective, but the accumulated experience and "eaten dogs"
Why Not Take Care Of Me? Why Do Men Care About Other Women But Not Me?
Complaints about lack of care are more typical for women, while men can talk about it with a certain sense of dignity (“The woman doesn't care about me like that… And why?”). However, in any case, a person begins to ask himself a painful question - what is wrong with me, why is it given to others, but not to me?
Psychotherapy Of A Psychotherapist, Or Why Long-term Psychotherapy With One Therapist Is Always More Effective
An article about what would be great if everyone had their own psychologist! I just want to share my thoughts. I think that the world would be calmer, there would be less anxiety in us if everyone had their own psychologist. Let me explain with my example.
