2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Crisis is a popular concept in our time and is often used in the speech of a modern person. Often, communicating with people, you can hear "Midlife crisis" "We have a crisis in relations" "creative crisis", etc.
In everyday life, most often, a person means by this something negative, associated with exhaustion, loss of interest, apathy, depression. And certainly the word "crisis" does not cause delight and few people see this for themselves as something positive.
If we summarize all crises in one concept of "psychological crisis", we can get the following definition:
A psychological crisis is a condition in which the further functioning of the individual is impossible within the framework of the previous model of behavior, even if it completely suited the given person. [2]
The etiology of the ancient Greek word "κρίσις" means - decision; turning point.
In other words, those unpleasant sensations that a person experiences when they find themselves outside the crisis line signal to him that the old concept (strategy, scenario, if you like) is no longer effective and does not bring pleasure.
Why?
Here we will have to discover the very “reverse side” of the crisis, which was mentioned in the title of the article. Namely, a resource for development.
Whether we like it or not, in the process of life the personality changes, new desires, needs, values appear, the old ones are abandoned … If this is not associated with some kind of emotional shock, this happens almost imperceptibly. But the personality is changing, which means that it requires new concepts of action (strategies, scenarios).
And now in more detail:
There are age-related, or so-called, “normative crises” [1].
According to LS Vygostkiy [1], going through this or that age crisis, a person acquires a new quality, which he called a “neoplasm”.
For example:
Crisis 3 years - there is an awareness of one's own "I" as a separate part from the mother.
Crisis 7 years - self-control appears.
Teenage Crisis - Emotional Separation from Parents.
Midlife crisis - redefining values.
The example of age-related crises shows that if a person does not go through this or that crisis, then he is deprived of the opportunity to receive that “neoplasm” that is necessary for him for the full functioning of the personality.
However, as mentioned above, in addition to the "age crisis" a person may face a "life crisis". And this is already more individual, since it is more connected not with the physical restructuring of the body, but with subjectively significant events that provoked this crisis.
What kind of "new formation" a person should receive depends on his individual needs and values in a given period of life.
As for "crises in relations with a partner", there can be countless of them, as well as the levels of development of relations. A neoplasm is always a "new level of intimacy" here.
It is crises that determine whether relations will get better, or end.
Couples who have been in relationships for years without successful crises most often suffer from a lack of emotional intimacy.
But, given the fact that there are two people functioning in a relationship, the difficulty in coping with the crisis is increasing. Many couples, faced with a crisis, perceive it exclusively as a negative, and not as an opportunity to get closer. Instead of seeing the "downside", a resource for further joint development, they end the relationship.
Summing up, it can be noted that the perception of a crisis as a possible resource can greatly facilitate its passage and help to realize its value in everyone's life
1. Vygotsky LS, Collected works in 6 volumes. Children's psychology. Moscow: 1994
2. Maslow A., Motivation and personality. M.: Aspect-Press, 1998.
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