Rules And Success

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Six neighbors lived in one town, and they had a rule to communicate unilaterally. Where this rule came from, none of them already remembers, but they very diligently adhered to it and did not retreat from its implementation. Each of them was very successful in their business, but most of all they achieved success in observing this rule

And it looked like this: one neighbor with whom communication began, a decent clerk of one government institution, was very suspicious of another neighbor, a farmer who was engaged in the cultivation and sale of fruits and vegetables. The clerk believed that he wanted to harm him in the form of physical harm. At one time, the clerk confided in some people who looked very good-natured and decent, but they attacked him and he lost one ear during this incident. After that, he was very wary of those who radiate kindness and look like a decent person. He told his neighbor not to approach him, that he sees right through him and knows all his plans. To which the neighbor just threw up his hands, because he could not say anything in response. The rule did not allow this.

He had only one opportunity to tell another neighbor about it, and that was a female lawyer who had her own private legal consulting firm, and in this case she was very successful. And while telling this story with a neighbor-clerk, he complained that he did not understand why he was so suspicious of him, he could not ask him … Yes, and all the other neighbors are limited in this, there is a rule … Oh, yes! Another farmer neighbor liked this woman very much, he kept asking her out on a date, but did not receive an answer! The rule was in effect!

The woman-lawyer had only one thing to do, to talk about it to another neighbor. She was very indignant and angry that there was this rule and it was necessary to adhere to it! That she is tired of this restriction, but she does not know how to get around it! Legal knowledge does not even help. She feels guilty towards her neighbor, a farmer, because she cannot tell him that she has another. And she has to report this further down the chain, to another neighbor who was successful in being very well afraid of everything that happens around him and with him.

Yes, and no matter how ridiculous it may sound, such fear helped him out. He restrained himself to take any steps until he thought things over well, and was thoroughly scared. He was quite satisfied with the rule of communication in one direction, without an answer to the one who turned to him. For example, with a woman lawyer, he was already frightened enough by her anger and despair, and he was afraid to even imagine that he was telling her something in return.

So he sat and waited for the storm to pass and turned to his two-faced neighbor. Sharing with him that he is afraid of a woman lawyer and how wonderful that there is such a rule of one-sided communication. His name was only a fearful neighbor.

What was the next neighbor called two-faced? His face was split into two halves. Either he applied paint in this way, or he reacted to the world in this way, in two ways, but it seemed that with one half of his face he was following the time and slowly dying after him, knowing about his finiteness, and the other lived emotionally filling every moment own life. Listening to the all-fearful neighbor, he was very sorry that he was not able to answer, and on the other hand, he was worried that the answer could greatly frighten the neighbor. But he still really wanted to communicate not only with his fearful neighbor, but also with other neighbors. About which he spoke to an elderly neighbor, the last one, who had nothing to say to anyone, and could only listen. The rule worked.

The elderly neighbor was thinking about this rule and trying to remember everything, when did it appear? What good does it work for? What does it protect the participants who adhere to it? And does it protect at all? Or maybe it limits? Maybe once it was useful? And now? What is it for now? And why is it so difficult to cancel, to stop adhering to? The elderly neighbor thought about this for a long time and decided that it would be possible to find out about this only when the rule was canceled! But how to do that?

He collected this rule in a box. Carried him into the forest and buried him. Expressing words of gratitude for the fact that at one time, which he does not remember, it protected people from something, for which it was invented. But now another rule is important: to change the rules so that they correspond to those life circumstances that are happening now. He bowed and promised that the others would come to thank him and say goodbye to him.

When he returned, he saw how the neighbors, in confusion, were trying to communicate with each other. Very carefully, but with joy in the eyes. Of course, everyone had their own grief, which appeared in connection with the cancellation of the rule. The clerk has lost the ability to suspect the farmer and enjoy the fact that he may not hear what the other is saying. There was strength and power over the other in this. He found out that he was not so friendly as he said about himself. The way he dealt with the neighbor was quite aggressive, and in fact he attacked him, having the advantage of limiting the other.

The farmer was less important to the clerk now, and it saddened him. On the one hand, they do not rightly suspect him, but on the other hand, they are afraid, and this increased his importance. Hearing from a woman lawyer that she had someone, he became sad. But now he can take care of another woman. It was important for him to get an answer in order to move on.

Freed from the burden of courting a farmer, the female lawyer felt empty. It's nice to get attention from a man. Although she had a man, but still …

The all-fearful neighbor was not particularly happy about this, but was more afraid of what was happening, but then he said that he had never been so afraid, that now he no longer knew what to be afraid of. And then he figured out that he would be afraid that there was nothing to be afraid of.

The two-faced neighbor never thought he would be angry. Now each of the neighbors came up and asked what was wrong with his face and he had to explain. Previously, this could not have been done, and no one could ask …

The elderly neighbor sank into sadness. Now he lacked this secret, the rule he had been thinking about all the time. That the next stage has been passed. But he was fascinated by curiosity, and what will be the next stage?

So lovely neighbors acquired the opportunity to communicate with each other as they wanted. Learn something about something else, share something of your own. And that was their new rule.

From Uv. gestal therapist Dmitry Lenngren