2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Yes … I'm a good-for-nothing mother! And I'm not afraid to admit it to myself. And my daughter is not afraid to admit it to me.. sometimes))) I am far from ideal, and perhaps this is the best that I can give my daughter! The child is for you!
1. In three years you will be 18. From now on you can count on a permanent roof over your head, and breakfast with lunch and dinner. That's all! Tights, cosmetics and new jeans - only as a birthday present, because to keep you up to 25 - there is neither opportunity nor desire. Self-reliance is such a thing … I hope you understand.
2. You are the best! You are very beautiful! You are smart! You are better than me. You have more than justified my wildest expectations! Just know this!
3. I'm not an example for you - don't be guided by me! Nobody is perfect and I am no exception! You are not me! You have the right to your opinion, not to share my values, you do not have to love what I love.
4. I am I, and you are YOU.
I do my job and you do yours.
I don't live in this world to
to meet your expectations
And you do not live in order to correspond to mine (F. Perls) - take as the basis of any relationship!
5. When telling others YES, make sure you don't tell yourself NO! Do not strive to be good for everyone, all the same - for everyone, you won't!
6. You are free in your choices - I do not expect anything from you. You can do whatever you want, you are free to choose any path in life - to be an actress, hairdresser, banker, prosecutor! I will not interfere with your choice, but the responsibility for it lies with you.
7. I do not expect anything from you, you do not owe me anything! You are not obliged to brighten up and provide for my old age, and pay off debts - emotional and financial.
8. I also have my own life, and do not expect that my time and attention will always, completely and completely belong to you, that at any request I will drop everything and run to you! I also have a personal life, profession, friends, and a lot of other things. I also live my life! And she doesn't belong to you. I can help you, but I don't have to!
9. Love cannot be earned !!!! Nothing! Never! And don't try! You are worthy of love just like that! Because you are! Because you are. And who loves you - love you just like that! But this does not mean that one should not strive to be better. Do not CHANGE yourself for the sake of another, but strive for development. Each has its own flaws - leave them alone! Deal with them. Better deal with your strengths. Study them and improve!
10. And respect can be earned! And love is impossible without respect! And others will respect you only if you respect yourself! Find in yourself something for which you will respect yourself.
11. The world is unfair. And he doesn't owe you anything! There are no guaranteed ways to be successful! Count on yourself! Do what you read necessary, what you like. Learn to understand yourself. Become aware of your needs and feelings. And think how it will be better for you. Do what you read necessary, what you like. And never sacrifice yourself for another! Even the closest one! Will not appreciate! Well-intentioned road, as they say to Hell!
15. Not all men are goats! Do not listen to anyone. Don't fall for stereotypes and generalizations! 10 of your girlfriends will have GOATS, but you won't! And if SOMETIMES it will be a goat (also inevitable) - your 10th girlfriends do not need to know this! For they will rejoice that they are not the only ones who have “the cow died”, and they will relax in their confidence that they are all men! And nothing needs to be changed, and to improve in relationships - THIS IS THEY! And we have nothing to do with it!
16. Everything in life is the result of YOUR choice! Only parents do not choose - you got me the way you got! And they choose their friends! And men are chosen! And work, and everything - everything else … Make your choices, make mistakes, draw conclusions, and choose again!
17. Beauty is a terrible force! And she saves the world! And everyone worships her. She has only one drawback - it passes quickly! As well as youth! And don't invest “all your eggs in this basket”! Do not expect that you will always be young and beautiful - find something that will make you attractive regardless of beauty and youth! They will fade over time, and attractiveness based on intelligence, sense of humor, inner charisma will only grow with experience and time! Focus on them! You can't go wrong! And you will be competitive after 25!
18. Do not shift the responsibility for your life onto others, do not expect that someone should provide you with a comfortable existence, especially from men! Everything that you can provide for yourself - do it yourself! So you will be less dependent on people and circumstances! And, then you will need a man for pleasure and intimacy, and not to meet household and financial needs, for which you will have to pay for something …
19. Don't listen to me. I would like to give you a lot of advice to make your life better than mine! But you are not me. Don't compare. Don't be equal. I did not give birth to you so that you would be my continuation, meet my expectations. I want you to live your life. And I found my happiness!
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