2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Finding the answer to the most subjective question in the world is easy if you turn to the elimination method.
Colleagues in the therapy department have repeatedly shared stories when their patients were so suppressed in themselves emotions that in their childhood were identified as negative, and identified with exclusively positive parts of their personality, that the very likelihood of touching these hidden depths threw a person into a fever.
By analyzing my interactions with people during and outside of therapeutic practice, I found that:
1. Happy people do not boast about their happiness.
2. Happy people are not annoying.
3. Happy people do not flee from unhappy people in fear that they will shake their bliss.
4. Happy people do not try to change you or convince you that your emotions are wrong in an attempt to make you happy and "bring you light."
5. Happy people do not force the other person to accept them as they are with all their cockroaches.
6. Happy people understand that the outside world is not responsible for their happiness, and therefore they calmly make contact with people of any class and mood.
7. Happy people don't try to pressure or manipulate other people. They understand that resisting negativity brings a double dose of negativity, and they consciously choose to focus on the good.
8. Happy people see and appreciate the positive side of negative events: for them, any negative event is a guiding star that indicates a positive event to which they choose to strive.
9. Happy people do not wait for someone to come and show them the way to happiness in a video in 20 minutes. Happy people recognize their dominant role in creating their own happiness and therefore do not expect others to dance to their tune in an attempt to make them happy.
10. Happy people take an active part in the process of creating their own happiness. They understand that the past cannot be changed; that the present is a consequence of the past; and the future has not yet been written and therefore is subject to transformation, which a happy person consciously chooses to take into his own hands.
To put it bluntly, one of the main reasons happy people are happy is the feeling of happiness, created and cultivated from within - and not as a protective or adaptive mechanism, but as a natural state of being.
The main difference between a really happy person and an unhappy person who is trying very hard to be happy, trying on the mask of joy, is the recognition of the first of his ability to create his own happiness, trust in the inner compass, indicating a state of joy, and attunement with his body.
A happy person is in a state of maintaining an energy-vibrational balance between the state of the body, experienced emotions and thinking. Happy people understand their emotions, know how to hear their bodies and have the ability to hear their thoughts from the outside from the perspective of an observer and correlate them depending on the chosen result.
Naturally, few of us become adults, possessing all the above qualities and abilities of a happy person. The role of suffering is for us to learn how to separate the wheat from the chaff and in the process of this selection discover what life goal to choose in order to align all the fibers of the soul with the great idea that we call "being ourselves", or vocation.
And although the recipe for happiness is individual for every living person, it can be argued that the main, most important task of a person on earth is to do the very things “for the soul” that we call “unproductive” and do secretly while no one sees. Things that bring joy and satisfaction.
Contrary to what we are taught, it is doing "for the soul" that is our most directly important occupation, for which we came into this world. Defining these things, doing them, and, accordingly, rejoicing is our main mission here, in fulfilling which we inform our source - the collective morpho-information field - what we love and what we want to create on the planet. When we do such joyful things (and they are different for each of us), we send a vibration of happiness into the collective consciousness. By this we inform the source, which we need more, and contribute to the evolution of mankind.
Defining these kinds of activities and acting "for the soul" is our immediate calling.
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