2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We decide to change something in our life, especially if it concerns something significant for us, we must leave your Comfort_Zone (where everything is familiar, predictable, consistently good or consistently bad, mastered, experienced).
IMPORTANT: ZK may not be where it is pleasant and comfortable, but where it is USUAL.
(For example, living with a rapist husband can be a ZK, but leaving him is scary and leaving the ZK) In a "healthy" ZK we can take a break from stress, gain strength, calm down, settle down and prepare for new actions that will lead our life forward, reveal potential, realize dreams and explore new spaces.
If you sit in the ZK for a long time, life becomes boring, the motivation to do something disappears, the interest goes away, the meaning disappears and despondency comes to a pain in the teeth, and sometimes suicide attempts.
The body needs development, overcoming; difficulties invigorate and temper; the unknown beckons, opportunities are calling. Happiness is still development and drive, not a swamp.
Ideally, if we leave the familiar life dear to our hearts, we find ourselves in the Growth Zone. In ZR, we experience positive and healthy stress: drive, interest, motivation, joy of overcoming, new horizons, more happiness and stress that is feasible for our body and the entire life system appear in our life. In ZR we strain and grow, overcome and grow stronger, mobilize and become more mature and independent.
If we prepared for our little revolution on all or most of the points that are most important to us - this is exactly what happens. Change brings us the thrill of overcoming, a new round of life and more self-confidence.
If there is no readiness, we find ourselves in the Panic_Zone - where tasks and difficulties exceed the life and psychological resources that we have at our disposal today.
And when the complexity is greater than we are, when the system is not ready, we can break. The body may not be able to withstand and shoot illnesses. As a rule, this happens according to the principle of the "weak link" - allergy sufferers develop allergies, ulcers - an attack of ulcers.
Get ready and go forward.
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