2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
because in much wisdom there is much sorrow; and whoever multiplies knowledge multiplies sorrow Ecclesiastes 1:16
In the mouth of a modern person, it sounds like "The less you know, the harder you sleep."
But human knowledge is very difficult to keep, and it was not for nothing that Adam and Eve ate an apple from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, and not from the Tree of Life, which also grew in the Garden of Eden.
The desire for knowledge, or curiosity, is a powerful engine of development. But our brain not only acquires knowledge, but also produces it. As Fritz Pearls said, thinking is fantasy.
And everything would be wonderful if these fantasies were not frightening.
Automatic negative thoughts are often the basis of anxiety. They run like ants in our minds. This allegory was invented by the American psychiatrist Daniel J. Amen, he called them ants (eng. "Ants") ANT - automatic negative thoughts (automatic negative thoughts).
Imagine a situation where you are late for work and think you know how your lateness will react. The body begins to rush and disturb itself. The more you are in this state, the less chance you will have for a productive day.
Our worries are somewhat fantasy. We do not know what is happening there and what kind of reaction our lateness will cause, but we have already managed to think of the worst for ourselves. This thinking happens imperceptibly, automatically, and mixes with negative feelings. As a result, we get more stress from anticipation than from being late.
What can be done in such situations?
If a train of knowledge flies at you, you need to start up a train of ignorance to meet him. Let's use the words of Socrates "I know that I know nothing."
Back to being late for work. So, you are sure that you will be at least twenty minutes late. Ask yourself three questions.
"Do they know about my lateness there?" Obviously, not yet, and now they are calmly preparing for the working day.
Ask yourself, "Do I know that bosses are not late now?" A moot point, right?
And the third question "How will my lateness affect the working day and my life in general?" We cannot know our future and why then regret about what did not happen?
And now your long-awaited and such irreversible delay has come. An involuntary "Sorry." This is how the real basis of anxiety is manifested - feelings of guilt and shame. Paradoxically, the more you apologize, the more intrusive these feelings will be.
How to deal with feelings of guilt and shame?
We use ignorance again. Let's call this method the Secret of Socrates - "I know they don't know anything." When a strong feeling overwhelms me, it seems that everyone is reading my thoughts in the face, but this is not at all the case. For the most part, people don't know how I feel or what I think.
Apologies only reinforce and inflame guilt, and the next time you're late, there will be a reason to worry. If you have this habit, stop apologizing and asking for forgiveness.
Not knowledge can and does not absolve one from responsibility, but it helps well from anxiety and guilt.
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