2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Traditionally, the concept of femininity (femininity) is attributed to such traits and qualities as tenderness, softness, flexibility, lightness, sensuality, sensitivity. You can add, add, what qualities are inherent in women, in your opinion. Who is a woman.
And how many courses and trainings on the acquisition of this very femininity, "the discovery of a woman / goddess / witch / princess / queen". Where does this demand come from? Why should a Woman learn to be a Woman?
The main reasons why girls go to such courses in droves are as follows:
- the girl wants to be liked, to attract the attention of the opposite sex, but notes that this attention is not so much, if not absent at all;
- the girl wants to be in harmony with herself, wants to relax, allow herself to be weak (not equal to a weakling), light, she is simply tired, feels cornered.
The very first such "master class" on gaining femininity was shown to us on the country's television screens by the heroine Leah Akhedzhakova, secretary Vera in the movie "Office Romance". Remember? She told the muscular "Prokofiy Lyudmilovna" in detail about what pullovers, skirts and shoes girls wear, how to pluck their eyebrows and what kind of gait they should be.
And why did Prokofiy Lyudmilovna need it? Because she fell in love with Novoseltsev and wanted to please him!
Thus, at similar modern trainings and courses on the discovery of queens and goddesses in oneself, already modern Prokofiy Lyudmilovna are taught to look and behave like a woman.
And really, why some women look like women, there is a lot of attention around them, while others look "like an old ragged shoe"?
Where does femininity begin? With the adoption of their gender identity. That is, I understand and admit that I am a woman. I have a female body and that is good. My brain is different in its functioning from that of a man's, and this is also good. Not better, not more correct. Just good. I can be weak (not equal to a weakling or a rag) and vulnerable, sensitive and that is also good.
Another extremely important point is the woman's ability to experience her emotions. Let's remember our dear Prokofiy Lyudmilovna again. Why did she turn into this unfortunate shoe? Because she harbored resentment and bitterness from the betrayal of a man, buried her feelings. The emotions trapped in the body settle in the muscles in the form of clamps, spasms, blocks. Tension is formed in the body, which can be seen in the gait, in body movements, facial expressions, in the intonation of the voice, and shines through in the look.
You can put on great makeup as much as you like, hide imperfections of the face and figure with foundation or long skirts, but you can never hide the tension that lives in your body.
You can do fitness, go to the gym, your body will become elastic, you can do a good stretch. But without feeling, this flexible "squatting" body will not become light! The movements will not be smooth, feline. The eyes will not be able to shine with warmth, and a soft light will not blow from the gaze.
The secret of femininity is not weakness, but relaxation. And relaxation comes when there are no blocked feelings (they have been wept out, suffered, let go) and when there is trust in the world. When there is faith in the best, when you want to rely on the rhythms of life, which will certainly lead you to where there will be joy.
Women are taught to enjoy life, think positively, trust. But without living destructive feelings (guilt, resentment, grief, envy, anger, etc.), trust and vitality (love of life) - it is impossible to find. You can try to portray all this. But don't feel like that. And from the outside, this substitution will be obvious to any Novoseltsev!
Before tackling positiff psychology, you need to reset to zero. That is, go from minus to zero. If I am offended, I cannot "get up and have fun."If resentment takes a significant place in my state of health, the abode of feelings, then joy has nowhere to enter - the place is taken. Therefore, I first release the insult, free up space, reset my mood. And only then you can let in the joy and fun. People who are currently depressed will confirm how absurd, grotesque and stupid the advice “just relax, enjoy life, find something interesting” looks. It’s impossible as long as it’s bad inside. First, we reset to zero, and then we go into a plus.
Express your feelings! Raise your resentment, your anger and bitterness, cry your tears. First comes emptiness. But it's good. Because "a holy place is never empty." Now you can be filled with joy and warmth. Lightness does not need to be learned, it comes when there is no tension in the body.
What can be done here? How can I help myself?
You can go to dances, they are good at releasing tension from the body. You can arrange spontaneous dances at home, they are especially good. You should not adhere to a given rhythm and certain body movements learned from the choreographer. Put on beautiful music and move as you want. Listen to your body. Sign up for yoga, get acquainted with qigong practices.
Express your feelings: shout, cry, write letters, speak on the recorder or to your friends. Live what has settled inside and suffocates with its toxic fumes, poisoning life.
Go to the pool, massage, spa. A psychologist and a body-oriented therapist can be great help. It will work in two directions: body and soul.
Watch what goes into your brain and your stomach. Refuse watching heavy films, from news that spoil the mood, from people who oppress, from harmful, heavy food. From everything that complicates life, that can settle in the body and soul as a nasty harmful muck.
Softness, lightness, smoothness, sensitivity are not something that can be learned. It will open when the tension goes away. When nothing inside is poisonous, you can enjoy the weather, love yourself, life, people. After all, the best adornment of a woman is not diamonds, it is happiness and love in her eyes.
PySy: … but diamonds also paint;)
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