2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Yesterday I called a taxi and a man came for me who impressed me to the core. He struck me so much that I tell everyone about him for the second day. I get into the car. The driver smiles, too, but on the phone, doing some work-related issues.
- Aren't you blowing?
- No thanks, everything is fine.
- You are not frozen?
- No, I'm really good.
- Want some candy? I just bought them from the store. So delicious! Jelly … I love them! I don’t usually suggest to passengers, it’s not tactful. But you just wanted to. I will understand everything if you refuse. Want to?
- Want!
Gave me the whole box! I joked that I understand why he has such a positive rating. We stop at a traffic light, guys with flowers are running past the cars.
- Do you like flowers?
- I love. He stops the guys, buys me flowers.
My eyes have already opened … I am going, I smile, it's nice.
I try to understand what is happening - morning, still sleepy.
They started talking about children. He has a daughter in his sophomore year at university in Poland, and when he said the next phrase, my jaw was on the floor. “You know, Zoya. I am so happy that I have a child. Wife. Job. I really like it! My daughter calls me, asks for money for some things. Well, she's there, in Poland … She's bored … And I replenish her card, and it feels soooo good in my heart that I did something nice to my child. I can imagine how she will buy some handkerchiefs for herself, order pizza with friends, she will have enough for everything. And me, straight, warm. And you know, when I take my wife to a manicure (for a second, right?), I pay myself. And I'm so happy! Then she will show me this manicure for another two weeks and smile. And I feel so good about it, you can't imagine. I did something good to the family! And I feel so warm in my soul after that."
At this stage, I already forgot about the inbox on my phone.
“And you know, there are so few happy people on the streets! So I look at the pedestrians, and I practically do not see “my own” smiling ones. Everyone is so dull and twitchy. You are generally the first passenger who smiled at me in the last couple of days. Met some acquaintances recently. And they have two children - in the 1st grade and in the 3rd. And they complained about how expensive it was to collect a child for school, and buy supplies, and textbooks, and uniforms, and courses … They talked about 15 minutes, and there was no face on them. And I suggested a solution. Do you know which one? He said - go to the nearest orphanage and send your children there if they are a problem for you, and you will have no problems either with the school, or with the uniform, or with the textbooks. They answered: "No, well, how is this.. so it is impossible.. we love them, these are our children..", -
Well, here are your children - so be grateful that God has sent you healthy, lively beautiful children. Many people dream about it and are ready for any amount in the world, but you already have this gift. A gift of fate.
Love them, do everything for them. And do so that they do not even know about this "everyone". If you don’t like it, send it to an orphanage. What are you complaining about? So happy people, but do not notice their happiness at all.
And most of them do, right?"
He also talked about something further. I was silent, listening (this rarely happens), and phrases “I pay my wife's manicure and get high”, “I do something for the child and warmth in my soul” flashed through my head. I realized that this driver is not an entrepreneur, not an investor, not a politician. He is not included in any TOP100 men, like many of my friends. He's not on the covers. They don't shoot interviews with him. He doesn't even make money like me. But there is more life in him than in everyone else! There is more love, light - real light, not television - than in all the people I have ever met … Generally …
I looked at the men around me and thought it was okay. To be forever with a sour face (you’re in big business), or not to smile, to be always busy and dissatisfied, not to be able to rejoice or say to women: "Ohh, again you are sucking money out of me for your salons." Or treats life as a struggle and a test.
I got out of the car with flowers, sweets and 100,500 compliments. I wonder if he scales his light to all people like that? I went out and realized that it was light for me! Such a great lesson and such a cosmic attitude to life. I have never received such insights and enlightenment after trainings …
Teachers are near!
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