2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
It's nice that often understanding and awareness of subtle details comes from everyday observations. So it is with the concept of "must".
Oh, how many problems arise from the notorious "must". Wife "owes" to her husband, husband "owes" to his wife, children "owes" to parents, parents "owes" to children, subordinates "owes" to the boss, chief to subordinates … And a rather difficult moment comes when these "owes" become much more than "I must" or "I can."
One little trick will change your daily mood, change your sense of yourself and life.
Just remember: "No one owes nothing to nobody".
… I can already feel the stones flying into my garden. Such, like: "but how …", "Do you even understand what you are saying?!?!", "Yes, you know what will happen if no one owes me anything?" ! ABSURD!"…
The truth is always somewhere in between … Of course, each of us has a certain type of debt (at least dictated by the constitution and legislation of the Russian Federation).
But:
- Do you want to feel calmer and more comfortable at home? Forget about the sense of duty and guilt associated with not fulfilling it.
- Do you want to be your beloved wife? You don’t owe something that you don’t want! Be yourself!
- Do you want to be the best man for your woman ?! Forget about your sense of duty! Be guided by feelings and intuition!
- Do you want to raise an independent child with well-developed inclinations? Do not demand from him what you think he owes you! This is how you decided!
- Do you want to be a good parent for a child ?! You don't owe him anything! Of course, meeting basic needs is a parental responsibility. But it is dictated by instincts and physiology! Who, if not the parent, will feed and water the child? Who will teach him to sit on the pot? Who can help you understand why a person needs clothes ?! But everything else is a satisfaction, rather, of parental whims under the auspices of "I must," "because in my childhood there were no such trains." You should not! Nobody!
We ourselves do not allow ourselves to be happy! The most amazing phenomenon!
Let go of the frameworks and limitations that you have created for yourself from your life. “Should” is exactly what you need to get rid of today! Do you value yourself? Do you value your loved ones?
NO "MUST" - BECAUSE!
Recommended:
ACCEPTANCE IS NOT LOVE OR WHY SHOULD I ACCEPT EVERYONE?
When I speak or write about acceptance, that it is important, that it affects the quality of life, how we live this life, how we feel in this life. They often look at me askance, and as if they ask a very such question, which at one time, not so long ago, very much worried me "
Should He Or Should I?
Metro. No vacant tables. Mostly men are sitting. A woman stands with a heavy bag and is angry that a seat is not being given to her. The scenarios that I saw. Zero option The woman continues to get angry all the time of the trip, gets out of the metro irritated, with the thought "
Because Mom Never Loved Me: Three Steps To Change
Battle of Borodino. French army. - Why aren't the cannons firing? - The gunpowder is out, Mr. General! Battle of Borodino. Russian army. - Why aren't the cannons firing? - Mr. General! Let's start with the fact that my mother never loved me … Historical anecdote They say that most of our problems come from childhood.
Nobody Loves You Because You Are Not Young, Beautiful Or Slim? Do You Think This Is A Dead End?
I am now a happy fifty-year-old woman. Of course, young, I was, but beautiful and slender, in the classical sense, I have never been! This "never" does not sound like a sentence now, as in childhood, when you are considered the ugliest girl in the class.
Teenage Years! What Should Everyone Know About This?
When a child reaches eleven or twelve years of age, often parents feel that their family has not a teenager, but some kind of teenager! Where did their cute baby go, who happily fiddled with mom and dad in the kitchen or garage, trusted them, amused them with his cute jokes, waited and sincerely rejoiced in parental hugs and kisses?
