Children's Passion For Pots And Toilets

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In one respectable family, where there is a mom, dad and grandmother, a baby lived. And everything was fine with him, until mom and dad had a crack in their proximity. Of course, because of this, both mom and dad were busy patching up this crack, and for a while they let their son go into his fantastic explanation of the events taking place with him.

By the way, the kid could not get used to the pot for a long time, for some reason he liked to endure for a long time, and then hide behind the sofa and fulfill his natural needs right in his pants. Probably the parents and grandmother tried very hard to teach the child to the toilet, but apparently they did it in such a way that the child was left with a fear of pots, toilets and he could not always go to the toilet alone, not rarely the whole family took part in this, more often the mother.

Due to the above circumstances (a crack in the relationship), the child did not feel completely protected, connected with the family. If the parents are busy sorting out their relationship, which certainly raises the alarm of the mother, then the grandmother experiences her anxiety about what is happening in the family, going headlong into a program about psychics, who thus support her faith in the savior. Suddenly, at some point, the baby began to refuse to attend kindergarten, which further increased the anxiety of the parents, further deepening the crack in their relationship. Dad could not support his mother, his only decision was, no matter what, to continue to go to kindergarten, and at this time the grandmother watched her mystical programs and, together with the child, was interested in the life of animals. Therefore, a five-year-old kid easily formed a picture of the world for himself, filled with microbes, snakes, dogs, ghosts, tyrannosaurs, who first came to him in a dream and he could not sleep alone, and could not really tell his parents why. And then they began to appear in real space, choosing a toilet for themselves, especially in kindergarten. Apparently the five-year-old had already become acquainted with shame, and already understood that boys should not be afraid (daddy's influence). Therefore, he carefully concealed all his fears and visions from everyone.

The kid met a girl who also had the same fears in the past, she could easily feel what the little boy was going through and invited him to draw on a frightening topic. It turned out an interesting thing: not a single picture showed moms, dads, grandmothers, but there were snakes, dogs, dinosaurs striving to devour him. The only creature that did not scare him, and for whom he courted, was a strange flower with one green leaf. The boy could not stop drawing a dream where he was riding alone in an empty bus in fear and horror. And when he was able to stop, he said that he had a lot of fears, and there was not enough paper to draw them all. We decided that until the fears were dealt with, it was better not to go to kindergarten, and the therapy was needed more by the parents than by the child. The story is simple to the point of banality, how easily and naturally small childish troubles can radically change a child's life and grow into a big problem, if you do not give them the proper importance and attention, if you do not distract from their adult problems and do not understand that the child absorbs the common field (it's alarming).

Another story about a 5-year-old girl who was afraid to be left alone without her mother, was afraid of kindergarten and was generally afraid that she would be forgotten somewhere, this family also had a crack in the relationship between parents, her dreams and fantasies in reality were also filled with characters horrible cartoons (ghosts, black men). This terrible armada swooped down on the girl at night, and she learned to fight back from her with the help of a sword presented by a duckling who later became her savior and friend.

At the end of this story, I would like to say that for any child of this age, it is vital to believe that everything will be fine with him, that he will live, that always in difficult times someone will come to the rescue and it would be better that instead of a duckling the saving principle was the parents or close people. Because if there is no such natural savior in childhood, and the need for safety remains relevant, then salvation will come through chemistry, religion, mysticism, food (through any addiction).