2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When she comes and you start making friends with her, you automatically lower yourself in your own eyes and in his eyes. You become a tornado, a storm, a whirlwind, but not a safe haven and not the wise woman he chose. When jealousy becomes your girlfriend, someone will win this fight. The only question is who? Someone will get everything, while others will get nothing. Someone will be on the throne of wisdom, and someone will be dethroned. So all the same who is: are you next to your man or are you with your jealousy, but without your man? The choice is yours.
What is jealousy and why does it arise?
I have my man, he is incredible, cool and I have been looking for him for so long, and now I finally met him. And, suddenly, here, for no reason at all, begins to pay attention to others? He gives them a chair in a cafe, begins to be nice to them, opens the car door for them. So gallant all at this moment, straight darling. Actually, he hasn't been with me for a long time. I look good, an incredible woman, how and why?
And at that moment, a huge amount of anger rises in me. Why do you, my man, pay any attention to a stranger to a woman? And here is a very interesting question: "At what point did the concept of" your man "become equated with the concept" he loves, respects and appreciates only you "? If you think so, then someday your man will turn into a tyrant who may simply hate the whole world, but idolize you.
The first thought, with which it would be nice to make friends, is your partner, a man so incredible, generous, mature, kind, attentive, that his attention will be enough for everyone. And you are in this category. You will certainly have a special dose of this attention.
When we talk about jealousy, we are always talking about greed. If you suddenly show your man at least once: "Come here. Why did you suddenly become so amiable with other women?" He reads it literally. And he does "come here": he does not go to work, does not go anywhere at all, stops developing personally, he just sits next to you. And it's very funny, actually, because when you're jealous, it basically looks like this. You tied your man on a leash and walk with him at a certain distance. A man is a runner, a javelin thrower, a man who goes where he wants, by the way, when he wants and does what he wants.
And if you broadcast one hundred percent trust in your man, then he reads it literally. I am so incredible that you cannot even have thoughts, in general, to look somewhere or leave. But don't talk about it and walk around with posters "I'm incredible." "Have you seen that I am incredible?" "Do you already know this?" - mistake. You must broadcast your state from within. It should flow out of your eyes.
Here's a simple example. You are walking with your boyfriend to the cinema, and some blonde stops you and says: “Oh, you know, I'm looking for building # 48-B here. And your man pulls out his phone to help her get where she needs to go. The movie is already starting and you are a little late. And you have several options for reaction:
- First, it is, of course, hysteria. Your horns are beginning to grow, you are ready to tell her everything that you think about her. And when your man sees this, then you look like a loser against the background of this blonde who he is saving now.
- The secondwhen your man helps another woman, you say: “Yes, of course, we will help you now. My husband is incredible, he understands cards, he is just, as it were, an ace. " And you stand next to him and quietly wait, give as much time as you need. You have already managed, even if not in a movie, but married. You have already received much more. Give that feeling of calm, and let him do his job. Feels like, in general, Alain Delon at this moment. Soon he will turn to you and say: "Let's go." And you go. You are calm because you have no reason to doubt.
And finally. You can never doubt him. All doubts can only be in yourself. Why doubt yourself? Stop it.
Elena Tararina
#CreateHeart
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