How To Tame A Playboy?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The same story is repeated every time. And every time she hopes to re-educate the guy and make him a faithful family man. She struggles to solve this problem like a fish on ice. And on the side, meanwhile, for the third year, a positive Andrey, solid and reliable, like a mahogany table, has been silently drying on it from all sides.

- There is no spark in it or something! He's insipid, boring with him. - Irina shrugs off and dreamily pronounces a meaningless phrase: - Now, if Roma became like that …

From Roma, it sparks so that a short circuit periodically happens to her. When a girl hears his name, her eyes become glassy, like a zombie in cartoons.

- You have some kind of vicious development program! - says her friend. - You must change your mind.

- Yes, I know! - the trained Irina imitates despair, and she looks at the phone with hope. As soon as she is left alone, the first thing she will do is call Roma to hear his cheerful voice ringing with the lightness of being unattainable for her.

- Masochist! - everyone who follows this series makes a verdict on her.

And she is not alone. Well this is international women's fun - to fall in love with a playboy, knowing in advance that there will be nothing good from this relationship, and suffer, asking why he is like that.

Casanova has always been, is and will be.

- It is you women who make us like that! - says the familiar womanizer. - Another classic said, the less we love a woman, the more she likes us.

Only here ladies love playboys because they love ladies too much. Just not one, but all at once.

At the university I had a classmate Leshka, well, such a womanizer, I have no strength. The girls constantly cut off his phone and cried into the phone. And at one time they got into the habit of calling the department, so the methodologist did not know what to do. She admonished these "sheep" and threatened Leshka with the dean, and he just laughed and asked who called, what he said, and what questions were asked about him. Yes, he asked with interest. He also commented on each caller.

Women first hang themselves on people like Leshka, and then declare a crusade to them at all corners.

- This bastard cheated on me! He is a bastard, he is not a man, he is a pervert, he will not miss a single skirt …

And they embark on a complex psychoanalysis of the villain over a glass of the tenth coffee with a weary girlfriend.

WHY DO WOMEN LOVE BABNIKI?

1. Because he owns the magic of the "catch phrase". Even if he does not overwhelm with compliments, he always says something pleasant and unusual at the very beginning. The goal of any womanizer is to please. Even if the object does not suit him. This is his narcissistic fad. The desire to please is in his blood. Over the years, he hones the skill of subtle, memorable compliments. This is not gross flattery and not pick-up "cartoons". He emanates from natural interest and sympathy.

2. Womanizers know how to heartily listen and ask the right questions that are interesting to answer. Otherwise, how to collect information about the object of interest? And at the same time to like it, of course!

3. The sexual charisma that comes from the playboy makes any flabby old lady with a wand remember that she, too, was once a woman. And if the signorina is in her prime, then only when her eyes meet in a restaurant with this "impudent type", her shoulders automatically straighten, her chin immediately tends a little upward, and her eyelashes lengthen.

4. They say that in any woman the instinct "re-educate the playboy and guide him on the right path" awaits in the wings. This attitude obviously has a bit of self-esteem issues. It is very flattering to think that he forgot about the other women for my sake. This is such a way of self-affirmation. And also, most likely, the projection of some important parental figure onto an inaccessible subject.

five. Well, psychoanalysts, who dig very deeply, argue that a passion for womanizers happens in those girls who at one time dad did not give his father's love, affection, tenderness, compliments, appeared irregularly or was generally a cold, unemotional oak tree. And then the insidious tempter becomes for them another father figure, who is constantly on the verge of extinction, and whose love they want to win the most. This is the absolute love-addiction of a little girl, not an adult woman. And therefore, even if the playboy reciprocates her, she does not feel the fullness of suffering, and will look for someone who will allow her to experience the full spectrum of powerlessness and pain.

WHAT TYPES OF PLAYBOYS ARE KNOWN TO SCIENCE

- If you are a man, then you are Casanova! - argues one acquaintance, while a faithful husband and comrade. - Do you remember, as in that song: he is not a womanizer who has never seen women.

Yes, my dad, too, was always loyal to my mom, it was part of his code of honor. I even remember that I wanted to stuff a peasant's face, who wrote a letter to the magazine "Krestyanka" that all the peasants had cheated on his wife at least once. But at the same time, he always openly admired other women. Mom's friends were thrilled by his gaze and envied her. He always imitated a kind of bustling "casanova" at a party. Mom snorted, turned on the goddess of love, and intuitively knew that he would never really take the side. There is this type of men - mental womanizers. They talk about frivolous topics much more than real ones. They love all women, but they have strong moral principles in order to rush between skirts. Therefore, they choose one, the most beautiful, and look at the rest with delight only for aesthetic pleasure. This is a subspecies of chatterbox ladies.

Real womanizers are divided into two types - normal and pathological. The difference is that in a normal womanizer, women take turns, while in a pathological woman there are several of them at the same time. By the way, if a man is all right with the hormonal background, then with a probability of 95% he had in his life even a very short period of "I am a womanizer, I am in love with you for this hour." And for many, this period served only as a way of psychotherapy after a dramatic love story.

To be a playboy, the degree of marriage doesn't matter. As practice shows, if a man is identified as a womanizer, nothing can stop him. Whether secretly, explicitly, but he realizes himself, beloved.

And what will happen next?

ARE THE BABNIKI EXPERIENCED?

Any playboy, especially a pathological one, fate gives a chance to settle down. How many stories of such sultry macho (some of them are already retired) have I heard! And there was always one turn in each - he meets one day his magical woman. But out of habit that has developed over the years, he underestimates her. Yes, he loves her. And she loves him. It's just that one day, through his indiscretion, he loses it. And only then he realizes that this was the main love of all life. One playboy friend, having suffered, rethought his behavior and now he has a new romance, in which the blonde girl was definitely lucky. Because he blows away dust particles from her, takes her to the sea, gives dresses and does not look at other ladies, he only happens to old friends, jokes in the old style, nostalgic about past exploits. And puts another photo of his blonde in a silver frame. Another Casanova, after the loss of his beloved, first left his wife, lived for a year, repented, and then returned and became a real family man.

- I, - he says, - settled down.

- Come on, you just got older! - jokes his classmate.

And I think that he just experienced such pain that all the cupids' desire was knocked off.

But is it possible to re-educate a womanizer for a specific girl? Now, if you are the magic one, you leave him, and he will settle down, you bastard. Only suddenly it will not be with you white-fluffy. And on the other!

So, in my opinion, this is almost impossible. A person can understand something only when he himself is ready for it. And even though all his ears are buzzing with common truths, he will not hear.

My colleague Katerina from one editorial office recently got divorced. Her husband Oleg, before their wedding, was a thunderstorm of journalists and aspiring singers, whom he interviewed in his author's column. Handsome, eyes are fire. But it is not known what was so special he did with ambitious, model appearance, purposeful young ladies, who have such macho as mud around them? Some were even ready to temporarily leave the stage, career or wealthy patron for him. And he suddenly married a calm and quietly in love with him excellent pupil Katya, with a ponytail and a scientific magazine under her arm, whom he once casually seduced at a New Year's corporate party.

- Well, I waited, I sat out my happiness! - they gossiped in the next office. - Do you know, she was waiting for him at the entrance all the time and sat on the steps at the front door, and if she met with some kind of passion, she simply asked: "When will you be free?"

But this Oleg, probably, decided that it will always be so. I bet on the reliability and stability of Katya's feelings. And he continued to churn out stories "it is impossible to resist your unearthly beauty." Although Katerina fought and talked heart to heart, and danced in stockings, and was beautiful, changed her hair, cooked the best borscht in the world, and went to psychologists and bitvologists and to trainings on massage of intimate muscles. The same is all spilled-raspberries, not life. And when she suddenly left, he was speechless along with all the numbers of his passions. He is now desperately trying to get her back. For all the time of their close acquaintance, he did not give a single bouquet, and now the flower stall on it has become rich. Katya is still unapproachable.

- You drank the cup of my patience and all-forgiving love to the bottom. Not a drop remained. she says.

Oleg was warned. I didn’t believe it. And he still doesn’t believe it. But he does not look at other women, except perhaps to consult. And now he tries all his newest "tricks" exclusively on her. Now he needs to "sit out" and achieve it, this is how karma unfolded. It seems to me that there is a chance.