How To Understand That He Is Married

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Some decent girls, in order not to get into such an ambiguous position, immediately ask a man when meeting him whether he is free or not. And they even hope to hear a truthful answer. Naive. If he really likes you, he will, of course, say that he is not married. You will start dating, planning common children and a golden wedding. And suddenly - like a bolt from the blue - the bitter truth will be revealed. The “groom” is burdened with a large family, including his wife, mother-in-law, children and even grandchildren. And you are a mistress, not in the least aware of your "interesting" position. We have studied the psychology of this type of ladies' man, who pretend to be serious and free, but in fact are just looking for thrills. Lying gives their attraction a special erotic and dramatic meaning, which they have long missed in everyday life with his wife. But no matter how much "Stirlitz" is encrypted, you can see through it at any stage of communication.

Dating stage

Any secret agent, even a deeply married one, knows women's weaknesses and actively uses his knowledge. Here are the tricks he uses to get you romanced:

Offers a rich cultural and romantic program: park, cafes, cinema and other places for lovers. In the family, he has long lacked novelty and grace in relationships, so with you he is emphatically gallant, sentimental and inventive.

Demonstrates “serious intentions” with words like “Oh, what a miracle I found you! This is fate”,“I think I have known you all my life,”etc. He himself really begins to believe. They move from words to other signs. Men trust more visual displays of feelings - looks, facial expressions, gestures, than verbal explanations.

Looks deeply into the eyes. And he does it all the time. Ordinary lovers also love to play peepers. A penetrating look into the eyes is both an erotic challenge and a test of feelings. Most of the representatives of the strong half of humanity are convinced that "the eyes say more than words." But especially this trick is loved by guys who are hiding something from you. It's good if a million bucks. But usually, alas, another aunt. It is extremely important for him that you appreciate and accept him exactly as he is, with all the aggravating circumstances.

Easily shows your passport to convince you that you are not married. However, in our frivolous time, the passport does not say anything. Due to the fashion for civil marriages, your hero may not really have a stamp. But this does not mean that he does not have a beautiful wife and three children. In general, if a man does not marry, then he wants to reserve the possibility of small intrigues. Such as with you, for example.

Shows warmth, care and thrift. With enviable zeal, she prepares dinner, helps to hang the laundry from the machine, and resignedly wanders around the shops with you. Most likely, he asserts himself so. His wife cruelly nags him for not giving a damn about everyday problems. And he - in defiance of his tormentor - begins to "come off" in your house. The wife is a mischievous bore, and you are a beautiful fairy who overshadows virtue with a kiss for every hammered nail.

Makes plans for the future, but small - only for the coming days. He fervently promises to hang a cornice for you, go with you somewhere nearby - to the theater, to the museum and to the macrame exhibition.

Important

A married man behaves quite differently from a marriageable groom. He doesn't give bouquets. At best, a box of chocolates. With "cute little things" too strained. The "male" demonstrates his generosity and creditworthiness to his future wife. He has no time for his mistress. He throws all his strength into not getting too hot. Perhaps the gifts will appear later when you agree to the legal position of a mistress. Then he will relax and behave with you as a "second wife." In the meantime, he offers exclusively male help.

EXPRESS TEST

How to bring it to clean water

A tactic for the brave. Show that you are a broken-hearted girl and are not against an affair with a married person. Then he easily recognizes his marital status.

For those who are not very brave. Talk about fidelity in a relationship. Speak out against the "cheating scoundrels". If the topic is close, it will cause a hot reaction - positive or negative.

For the timid. Delay the beginning of a close relationship. Why do they go to the left? Behind this. And if he sees that there is still work to be done, most likely, he will quietly sail off to the family nest. Or blabber in sincerely romantic walks.

What happens when an agent is revealed

If the relationship did not have time to go far, perhaps he will hasten to evaporate, grumbling goodbye: "Well, I'm sorry." Or even saying nothing. But, most likely, after exposure, he will want to continue the relationship. Do you need the role of a legal mistress? It's up to you to decide. But keep in mind that without intrigue, your romance will slowly deflate. There is no one else to lie to. Soon Romeo will go in search of another Juliet to re-experience everything that was with you. Perhaps even he will promise you to divorce your wife. Psychologists testify: this process can last ten years. Especially if the wife takes urgent measures to keep her husband. Read about what measures a wife can take in one of our next issues.

The stage of the beginning of the relationship

You should immediately be on your guard if, at the very beginning, your newly-minted Brad Pitt does the following:

On your first night, he strives to go outside the apartment: go to the entrance to smoke, look at the car, go to the store, etc. In fact, he calls his wife and lies something.

Under various pretexts, one does not stay overnight.

Doesn't invite you to visit him. Any normal hunter drags prey to his den. If not, then the den is someone else's.

Sometimes, to talk on a cell phone, he runs away to another room. After the conversation, he starts to get annoyed, but does not explain the reason to you.

Remaining with you, the mobile phone turns off.

In conversation, he listens more and asks questions. He says little about himself and gives out only general information.

In his life, "the action of an irresistible force" constantly interferes, which makes him drive in the middle of the night to the ends of the world. The child from the first marriage suddenly falls ill, and the hospital is on the other side of the city. Or the mother in Kandalaksha suddenly ran out of money and needs to be taken urgently. By train. It is impossible to transfer to the account, because my mother has lost her passport. In addition, he has a huge number of friends who need to be taken to the airport (usually at night), to the dacha, or to help harvest a gigantic crop of tomatoes. But for some reason he does not introduce you to friends and does not treat you to tomatoes.

Does not give his home phone number and address.

He does not want to go with you to the company of your friends and generally does not like places with a large crowd of people. Afraid to meet acquaintances.

Important

He is 100% married, if in the evening after ten he does not pick up the phone and does not answer the SMS. Or turns off the phone altogether. This is a guaranteed check for vacancy.

EXPRESS TEST

How to bring it to clean water

Present a "valentine": a keychain or a heart with Velcro, a pendant to the car keys. If all the next days the little thing is in the same place where he put it with you, most likely, he is free.

On your next date, unexpectedly offer to go to his house. Like, I want to see how you live.

Stage of the novel

How to recognize a "double agent" if you have been together for a long time:

Until now, you have never seen his parents or even talked on the phone.

All meetings take place on your territory.

He often goes on business trips, but upon arrival he does not say anything: how he went, where he was, what he drank.

From time to time, competently speaks about some imaginary female flaws that you do not have. For example, to one girl, her boyfriend all the time complained that women’s breasts sagged with age and the figure deteriorated. “What does he care about others? I'm 25 years old! - thought the girl. She lived with him for a year in the same apartment and suddenly accidentally found out that he had been married for a long time to a woman who was not young and had grown very stout after giving birth.

Emphasizes its value in your life and the uniqueness of your relationship. Still would! You are exactly the woman with whom he decided on such an adventure as bigamy.

His personal belongings often disappear from home for a while, and then come back. His favorite T-shirt is gone for a week, and then he appears in it, fresh. "The shirt is dry and does not smell" is a fiery greeting from his wife.

Important

His main strangeness at this stage is manifested in money. He saves on your general expenses, you don't know how much he makes. In the store, he often buys something and drags in an unknown direction, and not to your nest. Explains, they say, this is a gift to parents, and so on. Or is generally silent.

EXPRESS TEST

How to bring it to clean water

Ask him to introduce you to his parents and other close relatives. If he refuses, insist.

Eight signs of a free shooter

1. Immediately takes you to your house. Any man feels insecure with a new girlfriend. At home, he will be more comfortable with you - native walls help. Plus the hunter instinct mentioned above.

2. Speaks a lot and unobtrusively praises himself.

3. After intimacy, he begins to actively interfere with your life: he calls in the middle of the working day, writes SMS just to find out how things are, and admits warm feelings.

4. Begins to make joint plans for summer vacations (especially if it is autumn).

5. Willingly introduces friends and parents.

6. He has a serious hobby, and maybe more than one. Skydiving, kayaking, rock climbing, etc.

7. On the second or third date comes with flowers.

8. Provides material signs of attention: gives jewelry and other cute trinkets.