2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When we are dismissive of ourselves, we become even more distant from ourselves and show dislike for ourselves. It happens in small things, in everyday activities. We do not even know about many things, since we have absorbed it since childhood, or the rules of society dictate this way. In this case, the circumstances are secondary, the main thing is what influences us and how we can change it.
What is neglect or lack of self-care?
We do not monitor the state of our body. We go to the doctor only when something already hurts, we do not provide preventive support, we do not control chronic diseases
Too lazy to cook your own food. For others with joy, but for myself somehow I don't really want to. Most often, because of this, we do not eat very well
We buy things that we need, not those that we want. This also includes discounted items. Sympathy is not important, the main thing is a good price
Something is bearable, because it is inconvenient to refuse. And there are many reasons for this inconvenience, and by this we push ourselves into a trap
We cannot refuse to fulfill the request in situations when it is inconvenient to do it, there is no resource, opportunity, or there is simply no desire
We refuse to rest: full sleep, weekends, vacations, free evenings
Do not spoil yourself. Many do not even know how it is. “How to pamper yourself” - everyone has their own. It can be a new phone case or a trip to a restaurant, or something more ambitious, such as buying an expensive guitar, a trip to Alaska
We communicate with people who are unpleasant to us, only because it is necessary (for one reason or another)
Focusing on the negative
We are in a destructive relationship
We follow the opinion of others
We prioritize circumstances, not our own desires and dreams
We live for the sake of children, denying ourselves everything
We live for the safety of the family, although it has been gone for a long time
Concentrate on the negative. And when we tell the same situation to all our friends, we find ourselves in a cycle of negative emotions. This turns us even more towards unpleasant internal states
We watch TV shows, TV series, news about violence, scandals, betrayal, difficult fates, disappointment, pain. Even if they sound in the background, your mind and subconsciousness fix all this, and then it gives it out as something of yours
We do not follow our appearance or, on the contrary, are too categorical in it, referring to age, “mother of three children”, social status, etc
The above list is just a small part of what can be told and enumerated. These are more landmarks to look at and analyze what we have personally or similar. Each person has their own list. It depends on financial capabilities; the degree of self-love; the power of dependence on others; expectations that someone owes us something (yes, this is very important, especially in relationships, since we can expect our beloved ones to realize our desires, and that they have to guess about it).
What can we do with our lists? Change! In the name of myself and for my own sake !!! The best time to start doing this is TODAY.
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