2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Healthy Selfishness or I am
“You think about yourself, so you are an Egoist”, “The interests of others are more important than yours” - these heavy introjects settle in the psyche and destroy destiny.
A person with such attitudes gives all the best for his children, family and forgets about himself. It turns out that there are no own feelings, needs. It means that I am not - I seem to be scattered in space - I do not feel either soul or body.
The indignant organism screams: "I am"!
And suddenly vegetative-vascular dystonia with weakness and dizziness comes to visit.
A panic attack spreads in blazing waves of heat and horror.
Depression shrouds in despair and hopelessness.
I feel bright and intense processes inside that make me look at myself. I feel that I am not dispersed in space, but that I am a separate organism and personality.
I begin to listen to myself and change my altruistic lifestyle. I am returning to myself through psychosomatic illness. But you can avoid bodily illness and mental suffering. For this, it is important to learn to love yourself and take care of yourself. Some people think this is Selfishness.
Selfishness is taking care of your “I” and its interests even at the cost of the good of others.
"Reasonable" egoism - satisfaction of their needs, protection of interests. Love and respect for yourself. At the same time, respect for the good, the person and the boundaries of the other.
"Whatever you want, God wants it" or "I am alone at home." Are these phrases about selfishness or violation of the biblical commandments and laws of society?
Varya puts herself first, which means she is an egoist? But the girl takes care of herself, respecting the interests of others. Is this selfishness? This is a healthy way of life.
When Varya dies, she will go on her last journey alone. It turns out that the only person who will be there from birth to death is herself. And if so, then it is important to take care of this closest person - about yourself.
And this does not mean that to the detriment of other people. Despite the motto: “I am alone at home,” Varya has close people who love her and whom she loves. The environment appreciates her. Varya is happy and contented, full of resources and useful to other people.
It maintains its outer shape and inner fullness. Does not spray, protects borders, glows with energy and mystery.
She has her own beliefs and preferences, which she boldly declares. She doesn't need to be accepted and approved. Chinese wisdom says: "Even if you are an angel, there is always someone who does not like the rustle of your wings." You need to be good, first of all, for yourself. And Varya appreciates and respects herself.
Varya is free, independent and satisfies her own actual needs.
And you?
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