Simple Ways To Make A Conversation Deep And Help A Man Open Up Emotionally

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Communication is an opportunity. Communication has endless potential, but we rarely explore it and take our first steps in new territory. This article will show you how to navigate conversations along the right paths and avoid the constant routine of communication.

Constant conversations do not always involve face-to-face communication

Joel, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

Any relationship starts with a conversation.

Each friendship is defined by a series of experiences and the discussion of those experiences.

Even every meaningless, passionate, wild sex is accompanied by a strange dialogue from the series - who are we and what are we doing here in the Universe?

Conversations never lose their importance. They determine how well you know your spouse, how good the relationship with colleagues and friends is, and how you influence people and attract them into your life.

There are many books on sub-communication and non-verbal language that believe that the words we utter hardly mean anything. I don't believe them.

Boring writing, boring conversations become tasteless, dry, clichéd, routine and drag you into the nightmare generated by hell, if they cannot be avoided.

The premonition of an unpleasant conversation is the reason why you flinch and refuse to answer when you see a family friend or relative calling you. It's boring because you can predict the whole conversation.

Routine is outdated and meaningless. The conversation will become just another reminder that you would never have spoken to a person if you were not connected by blood ties.

The same thing happens in our personal lives.

Here's an imaginary but typical dinner conversation between two people.

-How's your work?

-Excellent.

-How is Bill?

- Bill is doing well.

- By the way, did you call the electrician today?

-Yeah.

- And also we need to choose furniture this weekend. Shall we go to the store on Saturday? Have you decided on the sofa yet?

-No.

The questions are passing, the answers are flat

On a constant basis, they hurt the heart and cause mental anguish if endured for a long time. Two people can talk, but they never know anything about what is going on inside them. Because not every conversation has depth and connection.

I believe that talking can change our lives and even save us. The best conversation is one in which one encourages the other to open his soul and not be afraid to explore what is inside.

Here are some ways:

1) Ask questions that provide an opportunity to open up emotionally

People really need to open up to others. Director Kevin Smith believes that people have three needs: Food, Sex, and the Need to Be Heard.

But people will be afraid to open up for many reasons. They are shy. They are afraid of the answer … They are British:) So they need permission to express themselves emotionally.

How to do it simply?

Ask them how they feel about something. For example:

How did you feel when you set the record in the marathon?

Was it hard for you to deal with your parents' divorce?

What thoughts did you have when they told you they were hiring you?

These questions provoke the disclosure of emotions. They cut through logic and invite the other to see their feelings, which makes them feel a deep connection with their partner. An excellent recent article in the Huffington Post talks about how one couple introduced reflexive questions like this into their lives.

I more than agree.

Cool questions make the person look forward to talking to you, because you let them talk about things and feelings that they usually hesitate to talk about.

2) Use the method of Sigmund Freud

When a man reveals himself to you, be almost impartial in your responses. Don't judge him. Don't criticize or sigh when he says he did something shameful, insane, or bad. Let him feel like it’s natural, then show more curiosity. In other words, give the other person more space to talk. Psychotherapists have the skill of listening and provoking questions that contribute to deeper communication. Be generous and motivate him to give more.

How it was?

What else has happened?

Is there anything else that worries you or worries you now?

Have you always wanted to do this?

People tend to open up when

a) feel a LOT of freedom to communicate

b) understand that they will not be condemned for their actions

c) they see that you are interested in hearing their answer.

Do this and people will feel at ease and at ease talking to you about any topic.

3) Let him be an expert

People want to share their wisdom. If you want a man to open up, ask his advice in the area where he works. This works especially well with ambitious men and those who have a lot of experience to share. Ask for example:

What would you say to someone starting a business today?

What is the most important thing you learned about yourself when you lived in that country?

How do you keep yourself in shape?

These are interesting questions because they reveal a person's inner beliefs and perspectives in his life that can be correlated with his own. People think they need to know a lot about someone else in order to be in a deep relationship with him, but this does not require knowledge: just ask him to teach you or give you advice.

4) Show that you are vulnerable too

Don't be stoic otherwise people will feel your "coldness". Show that you are alive, that you are vulnerable and that you have fears. Not that I am in a complete nightmare, but enough to understand that you are imperfect and you are in harmony with it. As long as you show easily, with humor that you do not take them seriously, people will love your flaws as well.

If you are nauseatingly perfect, people will feel distant and reluctant to share for fear of looking weak in front of you.

5) Change your commonplace phrases

If you notice that you end up phrases the same way all the time, become more honest. Ask yourself. What do I really think about this? Why am I hiding it? Am I trying to protect myself from something? Expand your boundaries every time and you will get used to speaking more sincerely. Deal with the phrases that you repeat in response to questions over and over and answer honestly.

6) Encourage him to talk about what he likes to do

Carry him away with talking about dreams and global plans. Ask what he would like to achieve when he looks at himself at the end of his life or what he would like people to say about him in the future. The future is great because it is easy for people to rejoice in future plans and you learn a lot about inner ideals when you ask about dreams and goals. A conversation can change someone's life. We can deeply influence people with the right question or a sincere answer, or when we allow someone to say something that they have held to themselves for a long time. People may love to chat, but that doesn't mean the conversations are valuable. We should be exceptions, beacons of truth amid lies, the attraction of the living against posing and superficiality. We have a chance with every word, in a world full of tension, to become a person who speaks only in essence. Or at least you will be invited to more parties.