2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Adolescence is one of the most problematic for both parents and their children. And the point is often not even those quarrels that arise, but rather in the internal chaos of animal instincts mixed with the norms of morality that reigns in the depths of the soul of a no longer small, but not yet an adult person.
UNcontrollable.
The teenager sorely lacks freedom of his own actions, actions, decisions. And if before that time the parents carefully (in their understanding - loving) controlled ALL spheres of his life, now this concern becomes a burden to him. He needs areas of his responsibility, in which he, albeit making mistakes, but gains independence and independence, if necessary (which is very important) being confident in the maximum support of his parents.
DOES NOT LISTEN.
To listen means to listen. And you want to listen to someone you want to imitate. Here is the line of dividing the world in the eyes of a teenager into "friends" and "aliens" not by blood and age, but by views and hobbies. Hence the subcultures, and the imitation of their heroes. Until the teenager begins to listen with interest and respect to the parent's words, there will be no obedience. This is the difference between the words “listen” and “hear”. You should have something for which your child could be proud of you, even if it is only the ability to write with both hands at the same time.
LOADING.
“The more the parents pull the teenager“towards beauty”, the further he goes into“disgrace”- almost the law of this age. This is how he protects his self-esteem, so he shows that it hurts more to obey than to obey you. Just ask yourself two questions, "Why is my child behaving this way?" and “Why does he behave like this?”, and everything will become clear to you. Take a closer look, listen, think about it.
TEENAGER EMOTIONS.
In a teenager, everything is twofold - both emotions (superficial experiences) and feelings (deeper and more permanent), and even more so behavior. He is thrown from side to side, he is looking for his own, sometimes not imagining what it looks like. It is important that he knows that, despite all your emotions, your feelings of love for him will never diminish.
HOW TO BE?
The answer should not be to the aggressive attack of the child, who most often turns out to be a hostage of his aggression himself, but to the pain that caused this attack. And this requires such qualities of parents as endurance, patience and a real interest in the inner world and interests of their teenager.
Peace in the family, love and understanding!
Artyom Skobelkin
crisis psychologist.
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