2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The trend of the coming year is unconditional love.
Most of us are accustomed to living through rationality and logic - to calculate everything, be reinsured, and control everything. There is no joy in this lifestyle, and in truth, this style is becoming obsolete. As you can see, events happen so quickly and unpredictably that it is difficult to plan for anything long term. Try to calculate, for example, what psychotherapy will look like in 10 years. It turns out?
Many of us already understand how to live consciously - to perceive reality through mental, emotional and bodily insights - that is, with our whole being. Mindfulness, like an epidemic, awakens people. If we compare clients who came to trainings 15 years ago and now - the earth and the sky. Previously, the ability to be aware appeared after a year or two or three studies, but now almost everyone who enrolls in the first year is already perfectly aware of themselves.
Unconditional love is the next round in the evolution of human values. Mercy and compassion drive out narcissistic fears, tear down high fences between people, create bridges for contact with each other, and return Humanity. All who have these qualities are called people with open hearts.
An open heart allows you to trust, hope, compassion, feel love for the world, people around, animals, plants and most importantly - for yourself! Self-loathing is the root cause of most human troubles. Disbelief, disrespect, excessive self-criticism, awkwardness for oneself - deprive a person of the freedom to be, to declare even for himself: "I am." Go deep into yourself, try to feel how open your heart is: 10, 30 or 70%? Or maybe you don't know the feeling of an open heart yet?
We are all born with open hearts. Chat with kids, feel their energy. They are full of happiness, curiosity and vitality. From an excess of emotional experiences with a minus sign, the heart closes in order to save us from too much mental pain. Most often, the closure of the heart begins to occur at the "magic" age - five to six years. It seems that children must do this in order to survive in the imperfect "world of adults."
And only years or decades later, when children grow up and adapt in society, some will have the need, strength and courage to return the ability to live with an open heart. What happens after the heart has closed? The world is moving away from us. Not because he's so cruel. Not at all. Because we are breaking our cordial ties with him. To survive. We become tough, cold-blooded, overly anxious or frozen.
And the people around them feel it. Therefore, people with closed hearts find it difficult to create close relationships, not just find a life partner or establish good relationships with work partners. Heart connection is lost not only with others, but also with oneself, so it is impossible to realize cherished dreams, because it is not clear what I want, it is impossible to create your own business for the soul, since the connection with the soul is lost …
What happens when the heart is open to love? A heart full of love attracts love to itself. We attract those who coincide with us in values and aspirations. We unmistakably read information and find those who are from "our pack", as we instantly catch each other's vibrations and rhythms. Intuitive. It's just that not everyone knows how to understand this information.
I know a few who are now thirty plus, who did not have to close their hearts. They stand out very much against the background of "ordinary" ones: they radiate love and are loved, because they are very attractive in their human qualities, they have reached high peaks in society, because they are spontaneous and courageous in the manifestation of their thoughts and values, they perfectly know many languages, since travel a lot around the world and communicate easily. It seems that luck is laying a red carpet in front of them.
But the vibration of love can scare away those who radiate lower energies. They will think that people with an open heart are weird, stupid, or suffering from nonsense.
I will give a few examples of my friends.
Some, earning decent money, dress in second-hand clothes and use the money saved to buy groceries and diapers at a state nursing home. Others - all household waste is carefully sorted and taken on their only day off to a collection point several kilometers away. Still others - often volunteer at a shelter for cats and dogs, doing dirty work. Fourth - they pick up stray animals, treat them, restore them at their own expense and then look for kind people who are ready to shelter animals. They do all this out of love and compassion for their neighbor. These are their values.
Whether or not you should open your heart is everyone's choice. I often remember the words of the Fox from the story of Antoine de Saint-Exupery: “Only the heart is sharp-sighted. You cannot see the most important thing with your eyes. " Therefore, I develop the ability to "see" with my heart.
There are practices that help open the heart. Here are some of them.
1. Communication with a person who has an open heart. Such people by their presence create an atmosphere of love, acceptance, trust. In their presence, we are imbued with love and become able to radiate love ourselves. Our own Sun opens up in us!
2. Contact with young children under one or two years of age helps to remember the state of bliss that we once experienced ourselves.
3. Communication with animals, especially with their babies, gives access to their own mercy and love. Dogs know how to love unconditionally and forgive us for the wrongs we have committed. It is possible that they are given to us to keep our hearts open.
4. Communication with nature. Remember the thrilling state of happiness when the sea or some other beautiful landscape suddenly opens up in front of you. Remember how your heart beats with happiness when you inhale the scent of young April grass and the aromas of the awakening earth.
5. Art. Of course, you remember how masterpieces of music, paintings, films, performances or cartoons caused in you a stream of tears of mercy, joy or light sadness. This is also grace.
6. High-quality psychotherapy strengthens the spirit, restores confidence in the world and self-confidence. Thus, it creates the basis for the opening of the heart.
7. Some life events contribute to the development of unconditional love, most often these are shocks: the experience of a serious illness, poverty, loss of a loved one, war …
I understand why there are a lot of mi-mi-mish pictures and posts on social networks. This is necessary to maintain the warmth of the heart. And I am in favor.
Rumi's words really fit me: "Only from the heart can you reach the sky."
And everyone has the right to their own path.
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