There Is A Contact

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we so often forget about what is really so dear to us - about our children. We are twisted by our daily activities and responsibilities, and we can often catch ourselves thinking that most of the actions we perform on a daily basis have moved to the level of “automatism”. Even ordinary daily conversations have become routine, automatic

"How are you at school?", "How are things in kindergarten?", "Have you done your homework?" etc. - how often during the day do you ask your child such questions? Probably one or two times for sure. How important is it for you to know how he is doing at school?

Please answer the following questions for yourself:

1. Usually after work you want to be with your family, share the events of the day?

2. Do you feel inner fullness, a burst of energy before and after work?

3. Do you have a hobby?

4. Do you take time to communicate with your child every day?

Let me say that those who have the answer "yes" to 2 or more questions are very successful in moving through life, which I am very glad, because when you walk easily through life, it is really great.

Those who have even one “no”, I ask you to devote a couple of minutes to this text.

Science today has stepped far forward, including psychology. As a result of the research, our colleagues made multiple conclusions, one of which claims that even 15 minutes a day, daily, meaningful communication, allows you to establish contact between parent and child, to establish a very trusting relationship.

However, there are a few buts here. If you decide to resume communication with your child, then it is worth considering a few points:

• Eye contact is very important in communication … If a child tells his father or mother about his achievements, plans for the future, at a time when the parent is busy (cutting borscht, reading a newspaper, looking at the phone), he will not see how you really enjoy his success. Try to sincerely listen to your baby (or already an adult enough), and the result will not be long in coming!
• Consider the individual characteristics of your child … Often, babies are more open to talking to mom or dad. Older children, more withdrawn, are more difficult to win over. It is worth giving them a little more attention, more patience. And your honesty, openness will help with this.
• Ask open-ended questions … "How are you doing in mathematics (chemistry, biology, etc.)?" - implies a very common answer - "Normal". And here's the next point: let yourself be stupid - "How is that, okay?"
• Give your child the opportunity to be reflected in you … It would seem that the child shared his experiences with you, and then what?.. And then try to tell him how you feel about this. Tell us about your similar situations in life, how you felt there, what options for solving this problem are. Why is this necessary?.. The child wants to feel support and support in the family. So how does he know that she is, if he is not told about it?

And in conclusion, it is worth noting: the child is what he is, and you are involved in this. When a child is born, it takes a long time to adapt to the environment, and imagination, intelligence, etc. are the result of this adaptation. And here you ask? You have been given a wonderful gift - to raise a new Human. And only your desire and activity will guide the Person in his development.