Is It Dangerous To Trust Others?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Is trust in others dangerous?

Probably everyone in life has faced situations when people who are significant to you let you down. It could be something, like a request to buy that very cookie, or something grandiose, such as organizing an important project together, a joint trip, or helping in a difficult situation. From small to great, that can be shared with "your" person, with whom closeness, trust, true friendship, love in the end. And it so happens that we do not get what we want, even where everything seemed simple and understandable. Deadlines are set, circumstances change, equipment, plans and destinies break down. A feeling of pain, disappointment, discontent, misunderstanding comes. Trust is crumbling into small fragments, not yet completely broken, but now ready to crumble. The understandable is losing its shape, have I really been betrayed? I am reminded of the myth about Delal and his son, Heraclius. The story began before the creation of wings for flight. Did pushed his nephew to death, wanting to remain unpunished. But his crime was solved, he and his son were imprisoned. Neither land, nor underground, nor water could escape from there. Then Daedalus had a plan to create wings and fly away with their help with his son. As we remember, the son flew too close to the sun, the wax melted from the heat. Heraclius fell helpless, and the sea swallowed him.

For me, this story is multi-layered.

The first is about the fact that family members and clans often pay for what their descendants or parents have done. Death is the most extreme option, you can "reward" yourself with illness and "unhappy fate", in general you can take on this cross with a lot. But I will touch on a more relevant topic, how we "punish" ourselves with certain relationships. How they play different scenarios and stories that want to end, which through us are trying to find their voice. In each story, they allegorically tell us about different things.

And the second layer is the very sun, which is often the closest people to us. Those to whom we are so drawn, to whom we want to be closer, we so want to warm ourselves in their rays. We see them big, meaningful, and sometimes it's dazzling. Here and our attitude towards them, excessive. They trusted a little more than it was worth, their space, their expectations, and maybe even entrusted them with their lives. But it turns out that the sun was just as simple mortal, not omnipotent, not omnipotent, and let's be honest, not responsible for our feeling of happiness. We are drowning in the sea of our feelings. Waves of emotions overwhelm the head, stifle with their strength, becoming uncontrollable by the elements. A little inner death.

Why does this happen? What is our story with the promises and hopes that we had for the most significant people in life, for our parents? Do we pull a trailer out of expectations to them, trying to visit them on others. Or do we choose the wrong ones and then? Then it's about responsibility. And is it so bad to be inspired by others, how safe is it?

Each of these questions requires each of us to work internally and be honest with ourselves and before ourselves. Let's be more careful with ourselves and before attaching wings from someone else's hands, remember that man created them.