2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
HOW CAN YOU DETERMINE YOURSELF LOW SELF-ESTIMATE?
Here are the main signs:
- The habit of comparing yourself to others. And not in their favor.
- Feelings of guilt and self-pity. Always apologize. Whatever happens, it seems to you that it happened through your fault. You replay the unfortunate moments of life in your head, you think "I am a loser", "I am always unlucky."
- You buy things that you don't like. It is difficult for you to make even the simplest choice. When choosing things or, for example, a restaurant to eat, dishes on the menu, you pay more attention to what other people like.
- You sacrifice yourself for others, and people use you. You give more than you receive. You are not respected, your opinion is not taken into account.
- Relationship problems. You think that there is nothing to love you for, choose the one who chose you, be content with what you got. They tend to fall in love with the inaccessible, suffer from unrequited love, emotional dependence.
- If you are a woman, it seems to you that other than sex, men do not need anything from you. If a man, then you think that women only need money from you.
- Fear of making new acquaintances, a propensity for virtual relationships, where you can only show your best side and avoid real intimacy.
- Love your "image" more. Prefer to seem like someone rather than be yourself. They tend to try on the images of successful people, wear fake masks. Afraid to open up and show yourself as real (him).
- Concern about the opinion of others about yourself. Fear of disgrace, bashfulness.
- The desire to please everyone, to be loved. Strive to attract attention and are afraid that they will expose you - the person who is hiding behind the mask of "image".
- Putting complicated cases on the back burner. The fear of not coping, making a mistake, and getting bad marks from others paralyzes a person with low self-esteem.
- Postpone your success and life until later, until better times, or prefer to live it in fantasies rather than reality.
- Bodily signs. External: stooped posture, stiffness of movements, closed poses, avoid looking people in the eyes. Increased anxiety. In difficult situations, symptoms arise: sweating, hand tremors, palpitations, facial flushing, etc.
- You don't like to refuse. Chat with people you dislike. You cannot say no even if you don’t want to, you cannot do what you are asked to do. Behind this lies the fear of losing love, the desire to please, to get approval.
- Increased vulnerability, painful reaction to criticism. You take criticism as an insult.
If you have found 3 to 5 signs in yourself, start from today to value yourself and put yourself first. Ask yourself more often what you want. Listen to your heart, try to do what you want. Saying no when you don't want to agree. It's okay to be who you want to be, to be who you are. It doesn't require anyone's permission. Trust yourself and protect your borders, then others will begin to treat you with respect.
If you find 5 or more signs in yourself, do not hesitate to sign up for a consultation with a psychologist-psychoanalyst. The psychoanalytic technique is one of the most effective in working with self-esteem, knowledge and self-acceptance. You can sign up to me right now - write in a personal message what worries you and I will conduct an online consultation with you via video communication 📲
Remember, self-esteem can be improved at any age. And accordingly - to improve your personal life, to grow professionally in your career.
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