How To Find A Way To Yourself

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The most difficult and, at the same time, the most important task in the life of any person, especially a person who has embarked on the path of personal growth, is to find a way to oneself. No matter what happens in your life, no matter how joyful or, on the contrary, sad, happy or tragic, prosperous or unhappy it may be, you will never break out of the cycle of illusions and false paths until you understand what is most precious that you have in life - it's you.

In the words that were used to write this article, it is difficult to convey things that can be understood only at the level of experience, but I will try to help you tune your intuition to find answers to the most important questions of your life.

Perhaps they will sow certain seeds in your unconscious, which, over time, will lead to vivid insights and deep realizations.

Why did I forget about myself

When you were very young, you perceived the world as it really is - whole, alive and constantly changing. Then, in the process of upbringing and socialization, when your head was hammered by a variety of schizos by parents, school teachers and other "adults", you began to perceive him as it is "accepted" - static, fragmentary and conceptual. In other words, you began to evaluate reality through the prism of various models, each of which is inadequate to one degree or another.

And the most important illusion or "shiz" that was imposed on you is your idea of yourself. By virtue of a natural biological program, which told you not only to completely copy your parents and other "adults", but also to perceive them as authorities, you have picked up a huge number of all attitudes on a conscious and unconscious level. And, first of all, attitudes regarding your identification or "social roles" (masks).

Having put on a mask from childhood (“good boy”, “obedient girl”, “diligent student”, etc.) and more than one, you make your main mistake - you begin to believe that the mask is you. Then an even more monstrous thing happens - you create your own mask and try to communicate with the world through it. For example, being a rabbit, you put on a wolf mask and go with it into the world. It is clear that not being a wolf in essence, instead of the expected bonuses from this mask, you will only receive problems.

Take off the ego mask

Removing the mask from one side is quite simple and can be done quickly. On the other hand, it is very difficult and for some it takes their whole life. Most die with a mask on their face.

You just need to stop lying to yourself and honestly look at your real self. This means that if you are, for example, a rabbit, then behind the mask of a wolf you need to see exactly a rabbit, and not a tiger or a lion. And behind the mask of the "quivering doe" is an ordinary cow. I agree that this is very unpleasant and very painful. After all, you have been instilling in yourself for so long that you are so “special”, “unique” that you, give you only the appropriate opportunities, and you will move mountains, and turn the rivers back and accomplish 12 feats of Hercules. Therefore, you simply cannot be who you really are.

And this is your biggest problem. You don't want to accept your real self. With all its disadvantages, which are also advantages. And most importantly - with all the enormous personal potential that you have. After all, if you did not lie to yourself and were yourself, then you could develop in yourself those inclinations that were inherent in you from birth and clearly indicated the harmonious place that you can take in this world.

For example, you consider yourself a successful specialist (or leader) and your bosses only feed this faith (it is understandable that you work better) and at the same time you completely ignore, but do not even ignore, and point-blank you do not see your talents in the field of poetry, music, massage or painting. And if you don't see it, then you won't be able to deploy them 100%. Although if you developed these talents with the same zeal as you rush up the career ladder, you would become a very cool master. Much cooler than some "office clerk - a successful specialist."

Gaining integrity

In addition to the illusions (“shiza”) written in your firmware and desperate lies to yourself, the most important thing prevents you from gaining integrity and becoming yourself - your position as a victim in life. And even if you disagree with this, you are still a victim. Simply because The Sacrifice Game is the most important game on our planet. This Game is the very Matrix that the Wachowski brothers brilliantly demonstrated to us.

The victim by its nature is not complete, because first of all, she betrays herself, and then, "for the company", and everyone else. Moreover, he does this not out of some malicious intent, but simply because of his weakness, which inevitably arises and everything increases after each act of betrayal.

Human integrity, if we discard the husk of psychological definitions of no practical value, is, first of all, the ability to keep the Word that you gave to yourself. It is in this way that a strong person, leader, master of his life differs from the weak, from the victim. The victim never keeps his word. And in order not to experience unbearable psychological discomfort from this fact, he lies to himself, explaining that the circumstances, lack of resources, support and other semi-mythical factors are to blame.

Therefore, starting to deal with your own lies, you will inevitably come to an understanding of the need to keep your Word. Both in front of yourself and in front of those to whom you gave it. And the sooner you understand this, the faster your life will change for the better.

Life is a process of moving towards a goal

If we take almost any successful person who has outstanding results in life, then when asked what the most important thing is to succeed in life, then, most likely, he will answer that the main thing is to have your own goal and steadily go towards it, regardless no matter what. This is the basics.

“Psychiatrist Vladimir Kucherenko told me on the air this absolutely true story.

A ship sank in one of the northern seas. Almost the entire team died, and the radio operator was rescued and brought to the mainland. After a long stay in cold water, he lay unconscious. A friend came to visit him, also a radio operator. And this, the second, noticed in the hands of his friend the rest of the key with which the radio operators transmit messages. Moreover, he quickly realized that, being unconscious, the radio operator from the deceased ship continued to tap the SOS signal and the coordinates of the ship in distress.

Wanting to calm down his sick colleague, the radio operator gave a signal with his fingers on his hand: “I understand you. Let's go help."

A few seconds later, the dying radio operator began agony, and he died. Man lived only because he had a purpose. Took away the purpose - and his life ended ».

(Maksimov A. M., The tenth book, or behind the scenes "Vremechko", M., "Astrel"; "Ast", 2002, p. 90.)

The problem with your goal is that you just don't know it. Instead of your Real, Big Goal, you have a bunch of small goals that are tied to survival, enjoyment, improvement of living conditions, obtaining prestigious consumer goods, acquiring some kind of social status, and so on.

Meanwhile, the real goal of a person is the maximum possible realization of oneself. Realization through a creative act, through the creation or introduction of something new, better into this world. Only at the moment of such realization a person feels that he is truly happy.

Finding such a goal is several cycles of iterations at each of which the missing "puzzles" are found to create a coherent, consistent picture. As a result, you get a clear and precise understanding of your life mission, you see your goal and the business that you really need to do in order to achieve this goal.

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