To Be Wrong

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Sometimes I think about how difficult it is to be different from others. Because in a world in which everyone wants to be different from everyone else, originality is still condemned and not understood as often as the gray routine

It is difficult to live with a gay. Because if you are a man by primary sex, then you simply must, how to be able to breathe oxygen, choose a woman. It's even more difficult if you are transgender. Because "bye, why did you need this operation, I was a normal guy." Probably, in the minds of people it is drawn something like this. You are an average sexually mature male, you go to training in severe boxing, but all the sparring did not work out, you lose, you get upset and like: “oh, come on, I'm tired of being a man, I will change sex, so there are fewer problems, because a woman should be beautiful and happy, but she owes nothing to anyone else. " And then you kind of have to explain that it was not a random choice and you did not lose "it" in poker. This has been your condition for as long as you can remember.

Differing from others is not easy. And it's not just sexual orientation. Even on the level of “being a feminist and not dying if a man paid for your coffee,” because feminism is about the fact that a woman must move furniture and change the toilet by herself. And if you are already 37, and you still have no husband and children, then you are either a poor thing who needs to be pitied, or a witch with a bad character, who just needs it!

It is difficult to differ externally from the parameters set by society, for example, in work. Because if you are the head of a serious company and you have a lot of people subordinate to you, then being with piercings and a bright tattoo on your neck is somehow not comme il faut. And no one is interested in the fact that this choice - to remain yourself - was not given in the simplest way, because "you-so-not-for-one-normal-work-will-not-be-taken" goes with you for many years through life, echoing into every new step. And without taking the metal out of your ears, you remind yourself that you've done it.

It is difficult to live with a non-standard figure. It doesn't matter if your body is too big or too small, too dark or too light, with old acne scars or cellulite on your thighs. Because all these differences will be appreciated and criticized with a tangible taste of bile.

We are told that love is just this and nothing else. Where one cares - feeding and ironing a shirt, for another - reading books together and then discussing them. Everyone knows how to love, as well as dance, at their own pace, but do we remember this so often?..

It takes strength to be different. Even if it is temporary, both as a protest and for a long strike, this force is not enough. Is being different a challenge not only to others, but also to yourself? May be. It could be otherwise.

To be different is often to live in constant sparring, to prove that everything is fine with you. And if not quite in the opinion of the majority, then reminding yourself that you have the right to do so.