2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Throw Yurchik for training, then follow Lenka into the garden. On the way - to the farmers' market, where my grandmother sells homemade cottage cheese. Expensive, of course, but where to go - do not poison the same children with this surrogate from "Pyaterochka". If only there was no traffic jam on Kirov … Okay, I'll slip through. Then back and forth - and it's time for Yurchik, because he himself won't get through half the city with this hockey ammunition of his …
And tomorrow it’s business - to sew up. Boris also flies off on a business trip in the morning, everything needs to be collected this evening - get a travel bag, check his suit, fold his shirts … All the same - the head of the department must "have an appearance." And in the morning the rise is at 6, if Boris himself has breakfast and leaves for the airport, or even at 5 he wakes up … Cheesecakes for everyone to bake, feed, collect, deliver … Then - sign Lenka for a medical examination, find out what certificates are needed this time sections - everything changes constantly. Run home myself, cook and fry the soup-puree-cutlets (children with appetite are mother's joy), pick up Yurchik from school, grab Lenka from the kindergarten. Tomorrow, thank God, they can be taken together to the recreation center - one for chess, the other for dancing, there is no need to ride around the city in two directions. So, yeah, also change the tires, it's already April, and I'm still on thorns …
So the thoughts of Tanya, the happy mother of two beautiful smart children, the wife of a serious and responsible man, the one whose house is a full cup, ran like that as usual. She thought about business for today, thought about plans for tomorrow. And I didn't think about myself at all …
At some point, she slowed down, turned on the emergency light and stood on the side of the street just where stopping was prohibited. Some unfamiliar feeling prevented her from peeling off the curb and continuing to move. Hands lay listlessly on the steering wheel like dead fish - indifferent and de-energized. A sparkling ball grew in my head, which obscured with its light the perspective of the street and, as it seemed then to Tanya, the perspective of her future life. One and the same question obsessively returned again and again, and did not find any answer - "Where am I here?"
Tanya got out of the car, leaving her faithful "nesting doll" to the mercy of fate and the crocodile evacuators, and, crossing the street, went to a cafe opposite to drink cocoa with marshmallows. She had a lot to think about …
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Colleagues-sociologists note that along with an ordinary “working mother” in modern society, a stratum of “professional mothers” has emerged - married women with education, a career in the past, a high level of intelligence, who have made a conscious decision to devote themselves to an important project - children. Such mothers devote a lot of effort and time to the formation of the "human capital" of their children - they educate, prepare, train and develop. As a rule, children of such mothers visit several sections or circles, eat healthy food, they are regularly taken to theaters and museums, in the summer there is a compulsory language camp. “Professional moms” have enough time for parent-teacher meetings, for participation in school committees, and for full-fledged care of the physical health of her children. The workload of such a super-mom is serious, and the return on work as a “mom” is not always noticeable.
If it seems to you that you have lost yourself, dissolve in caring for your family and children, become something between a personal chef and a taxi, and, most importantly, you feel that this state of affairs does not suit you - it's time to stop and look at your life. with a fresh look. How long will you be able to ignore your interests and needs, what happens when the children no longer need you?
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