2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
For example, new lipstick. Yes, very dear. And, in principle, almost the same, well, the tube is more beautiful, well, a button so that the lid does not fly off, well, the color fastness is higher, and the color scheme is more elegant, but, in general, lipstick is lipstick. And, (the girls will understand me) only when you buy your “old”, cheap one, then you will understand all the advantages of products of a different quality line.
For example, the employees were presented with an award. That's lovely! And the motivation has increased. And next month - a prize, and so on for six months. The beauty! But the motivation has dropped. “Why don't they raise our premium? Are we doing bad work? " And if you do not give a prize at all, return to the old scheme, it will be as if they were "punished".
This is probably why the emphasis is now on intangible motivation. To whom is "recognition" more expensive than money. Although, a person is still a “fruit”. All the time requires an escalation (increase) of their pleasures. Wants to raise the bar of his comfort. Have you noticed? So even more and more recognition is required.
"And you are not at all the greatest of kings, but only outstanding, and only!"
Even one of the most peak experiences is sexual, and I want to intensify that. Diversify techniques, use toys. Greed is irrepressible …
Each of us has a “starting point”. It is different, for example, among girls with different incomes. What is routine for one, may be a long-term goal for another. Each will increase its level of comfort, building on the existing one, which will devalue over time.
A parent complains that her child does not appreciate what she gives him at all. She feeds by the hour, the food is healthy, always hot, she sees off from school to school, helps the lessons, and the child grumbles that his life is hard. The child does not know how other children live, therefore he does not appreciate it. He has such a level of comfort from the beginning, why should he value this comfort in a special way?
Actually … it really doesn't know. How does a little person know about how other children live? He does not understand at all how much his mother “crushes” in order to provide for his life. How would he know? He was born and lives on everything ready. After all, no one forces a mother to cook dinner, according to the child.
“This is our mother - the most important one. It is she who can make the child eat porridge and learn lessons, but she herself always does what she wants. Maybe she likes to cook dinner?” - so the child thinks.
Children should not be expected to be grateful for their “hard labor”. They really won't appreciate the extra effort. Rather, they will devalue them, because they do not know another life. And, since “a person is still a fruit”, they will also envy those “street children” whom mothers do not bother with etiquette.
Having immediately taken the high bar of "providing comfort for the child", such work that you can hardly stand, be prepared for the fact that at some point your efforts will be devalued, you will want to "increase the level of comfort", because a person is always not enough. Do you have enough strength and resources to withstand?
Will not that "favor" be accumulated in relation to the child on whom she "ruined her health"? Does the child benefit from the "soup of the day" from a furious, sleepy mother? By giving above your strength, you create the very same imbalance, "duty". And by the way, in English it sounds like a "wound".
I think giving something is worth it with joy. Give in the amount that you can do and does not generate reciprocal obligations from a child who does not ask, for a minute, so to tumble into yourself.
All the same, there is a reason to be dissatisfied with your mother. The age-old problem of fathers and children. We will never be perfect for our children after they turn three.
The question is whether to be a volunteer servant to your child and then collect debts or show a model of the happy return of love "just like that", because you really have this love.
People who were provided with everything super-necessary in childhood sometimes come to mind “did my mother love me?” If she gave me care instead of love. Perhaps this is because my mother was too tired of worries to remember Love, although all the super-worries began with her.
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