Manager Mom: 8 Tricks That Make Life Easier

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

But at the same time, I understood the other side of the coin - full-fledged self-realization in every sense is unattainable for young mothers, as well as getting full satisfaction from life.

Imagining myself in the role of a mother with a baby, I was sometimes sad, thinking that some part of me would be lost forever with the first cry of my newborn …

In the end, the dream of a family came true … Several years have passed, so what? Yes, the career as such, in the conventional sense, is left behind. But more and more often I notice that my husband looks at me as an overly active manager who runs a small but very dynamic company called Our Family and Two Babies.

And at some point, I decided to analyze my family career and figure out what is really happening to me and those close to me.

The most pleasant thing and increasing self-esteem is the admiration of the spouse on the topic of the fact that the issues of everyday life, the organization of leisure and other important points are resolved as if by themselves. It is worth thinking, and everything works out, it is worth wanting, and there are reserves for everything. But I know for sure that it doesn't even happen by itself. My activity in organizing such imperceptible but essential moments is, so to speak, a daily business process.

Yes, I am a leader, and a talented one! This was my first thought, but the enthusiasm had to be tempered. No, I'm a leader. The leader only distributes commands, but for the leader, the development of all members of his team is much more important. So, the definition has been found.

Then I just started to analyze my functions and compare them with the work of any manager.

Formulation and formulation of the problem

I am well aware of the fact that if a task is designated as the need to do something, then the result will be quite predictable. It is "something" that will be done. And most often also "somehow". Therefore, in the family, tasks are set, so to speak, in SMART mode. Specifically. What, how, where, in what quantity and for how long. This can be controlled and easier to understand, especially when interacting with small family members. At the same time, it is important to always leave a little room for creativity for the one who will implement the task: we also need gradually developing independence.

Delegation

The pinnacle of diplomacy, it seems to me. The direct formulation of the task is often demotivating, depriving it of its attractiveness. Especially when it comes to an adult man. Therefore, the task should not be set, in some cases it should be delegated. Here I show my trust, confidence that he knows better what and how, and I just give a general direction and outline the desired result. Specificity, detailing and a detailed plan in this case are absolutely unnecessary, initiative and creativity are much more important.

Control and feedback

Praise - how much of this sound! After a well-performed task, nothing motivates and causes the desire to reach new heights more than a positive assessment and words of support said on time. And if the task was difficult and large, then there is a place for both a holiday and undisguised admiration.

As for control, here it is also like in business: it is important to control some stages of the task, somewhere to adjust the task itself, and sometimes to intercept the falling banner and just help.

Time management

Most important find and most useful skill for a young mom! I was able to finally master all the wisdom only after the birth of two babies. The most amazing conclusion: half an hour's sleep of a baby several times a day raises my personal effectiveness at times! 30 minutes for everything: drink coffee, wash your hair, tidy up, feed the cat, remove the tray, put on porridge, look through the mail … Yes, this is the most difficult quest, which I pass more and more successfully!

Prioritization

Raising two kids is, in fact, a permanent extreme. But it immediately becomes clear what is important and urgent, and what can wait … a year, or even another. How many things have I learned to do in 20-30 minutes! And yes, perfectionism and an excellent student's syndrome have completely disappeared: there is simply no time to reflect and bring everything to an insanely ideal state.

Realizing that all of the above was brought by me from my working office and lectures of institute professors, I thought that perhaps, as a family manager, I still do not know everything and can. And I decided to continue my studies, to go to the most affordable refresher courses - to the nearest playground. And this, I tell you, is just a storehouse of managerial wisdom!

The first thing that struck me was team building. Experienced and wise mothers make a real team out of a family, no matter how many people there are in it. Observing them, I saw in many a natural inclination to this, as if they possess secret knowledge …

Ability to negotiate

Do not shout, do not distribute short ones, like the blow of the whip of the command. Namely, to negotiate. The mothers who calmly and measuredly explain to the children why it is not worth hitting Vassenka on the head with a spatula or breaking the sand castles built by Verochka are simply amazing. And the ability to persuade you to go home and eat disgusting porridge, while you want to walk, play and run? The skill to negotiate, motivating, praising and explaining at the same time, I took to my manager's piggy bank right there.

Multitasking

Another achievement of wise mothers, which I constantly observe on the playground: they manage to have conversations with dad on the phone, formulating tasks for the evening, at the same time explain to the child that it is impossible to take away other people's toys and why it is still impossible to beat Vassenka, and even calm him down that same Vassenka, roaring next to him in three throats! It's just a show that you can't tear yourself away from. And probably the same happens at home: thanks to their multitasking, these unique family managers are able to check lessons, go to bed and discuss the problem at work at the same time. And no one feels left out: neither the head of the family, nor the young schoolboy, nor the youngest.

The secret of this, I think, is that some part of the affairs is already planned in advance, prepared and thought out. And arguments for the younger, and praise for the elder, and words of support for the husband. And after my "professors" from the sandbox, I began to plan many moments, which I had quietly let go before.

Innovations

New methods and innovative solutions in the field of pedagogy and education are essential. But not all of them were to my liking. For example, the thought of a system for tracking and restraining hyperactive children using a five-meter leash. This helps mothers, where there are a lot of people, to keep track of an overly active baby. But I have refused this method so far …

But the idea of joint learning and control came to our family about the soul. The elder, having learned the verse, recites it with expression to the younger, and he gives marks and comments on weak points. Great idea, I think.

What conclusion did I draw from my analysis? Yes, my professional development and personal growth can be envied! Not every office will have to master that many skills in a few years. Moreover, to learn to leave the notorious comfort zone simply because there is no choice.

And only one thing, I confess, makes me a little upset. In this endless deadline and force majeure, the ability to enjoy the moment disappears. Which is simply here and now, and which will never repeat itself … unless in many years we will see a moment of happiness captured in the photo … But this moment is the most important thing in our life, isn't it?