2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Why "or"? I would like to talk about such a human property that strongly contributes to overeating. This property is to suppress your anger.
Why overeating? Because it is food that copes with this task very effectively.
Let me just give you a few examples of how popular anger suppression is.
Presentation for children on the topic "What is friendship?" Friendship rules, among others: do not quarrel, give in, do not get angry.
"Smart" thoughts from the network: "Getting angry is like taking poison and waiting for another to die"; "What you have done will return to you."
One of the client's queries: "How to learn to control your negative emotions?"
I have no purpose to prove that anger is good. Although I really think so. My goal is to tell you why anger is needed and what happens when we don't give it out.
Anger appears when our boundaries are grossly violated, when our expectations are not met, when we experience certain feelings: jealousy, envy, shame.
In the first case, anger helps protect your boundaries. In the second, she helps to discover that the expectations were, that they were not met. And then there is a choice: to give up expectations or inform about them in advance to the one who has to justify them.
In the third case, thanks to anger and other emotions, we can recognize and experience our difficult feelings.
What happens if we don't choose ourselves? We allow you to violate our boundaries: do we give in, help when we don’t want to, do we not respond to the offenders? Letting go of our expectations? Don't we live our "negative" feelings?
"Well, they asked so!"
"Well, I can't be angry with the child!"
"What's the point if nothing can be changed?"
"Envy is bad"
Then the anger is conserved inside, in the body. But she can't just lie there. It still needs to be implemented. Most often, a person starts to hurt something. At first it is psychosomatics, then a real illness can develop. And to reduce the stress of unfulfilled anger, you can distract yourself with food.
And here food has three advantages at once.
The first is obvious: from the pleasant heaviness in the stomach, we relax, the body switches to digesting food.
Second: in the process of absorbing food, you can partially realize your anger - by gnawing, chewing, absorbing.
The third is difficult. Overeating is a form of violence: we shove more than we want. And then we feel heaviness and disgust. Besides, there is often also guilt and frustration. And this violence is committed against oneself. Thus, the accumulated aggression finds a way out in relation to his body.
Despite all of the above, I understand people who don't allow themselves to be angry.
When you sort things out with a friend, allowing yourself to be angry with her, it hurts.
When you loudly defend yourself in a public place, it's a shame.
When you allow yourself to scold a child, then you feel guilt and pity. It's unbearable.
And yet I choose myself. I choose to be bad too.
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