2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sorry I'm late. I am very uncomfortable because I kept you waiting.
- I ask: did something happen? Are you very worried?
- We needed to make a presentation and speak. But they got ahead of me and in the end, I will hand over mine only next Wednesday. Plus, there is still so much to do.
- What happened?
- Do you often have similar situations?
- well, yes, it happens
- What did you feel at that moment?
- I sympathized with her, she probably was very worried.
- Were you worried?
- Yes, sure. This report affects the final grade.
- Could you do what she did?
- No never. I cannot interfere with others. I am stronger, I can handle it. Apparently, I should be angry, but I'm not angry.
… I think about how many elementary rights this girl has been suppressed.
I know her story: the needs of others have always come first in her family. And this girl was always asked to be patient.
And so always, in situations where you just had to say: “I am here, consider my rights,” she found herself in a vacuum. Her own rights have always been secondary.
- What could I do then?
- introduce yourself, claiming your rights.
- You know, and a couple of years ago, when I saw a similar picture, I would simply turn away … I would not even want to notice that there is a problem. I would deny it, not wanting to bring myself in, to declare myself. Horrible.
This is how defenses work. If you do not feel your rights, you do not claim them. You prefer to endure violence, or another decision at your expense.
You will take it out on someone else, in a safe environment, because the law of conservation of energy will require it. Somewhere a person will recoup for the damage done.
When you admit that you have your rights, you will begin to conflict, because you will not immediately acquire the skill to firmly declare your boundaries.
…. Then it turns out that you have a lot of needs, and for each you will return your rights.
Do you often have to endure?
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