2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What happens to a person when he / she decides to get out of a destructive relationship?
I have more than once described the situations of different people who decided to end a complex, destructive relationship - they could be described with a graph similar to waves - decision - rollback - decision - rollback again, etc.
At this stage, people often think that this "sinusoid" - a series of decisions and rollbacks - will never end!
However, no matter how much the string does not twist, the tip will still be!
The decision to end a relationship is made by reason.
Feelings rise first - how did it end?
- Hey, consciousness! Are you here? But what about us, feelings ??? In the sense of "no prospects"?
However, after a series of kickbacks and feelings, too, slowly "go over" to the side of reason!
- No, well, everything is already clear … Okay, okay … It will be done - whatever will, what bondage is all the same …
And the last "detachment" is the subconscious …
It, of course, does not make any speeches …
But it "sends" a series of insights into the consciousness:
- This one, which is the best, beloved and dear one for us, is no longer there, no one can call him Anyway? Yeahhh? Well, who would have thought …. And if he himself? No, anyway? Well, it must be how everything is running ….
When the consciousness comes to the conclusion that the launched process of getting out of the past (negative) relationships is already going well, that the process cannot be stopped due to inertia - it scans the body and realizes that … it’s a matter of seams!
The body is in complete disarray.
Consciousness recalls that the previous period of cool uplift was in the period of falling in love with this former "the best, beloved and dearest" and begins frantically to look for a new object in place of the former!
The consciousness is absolutely sincerely convinced that this is the best way out of this situation!
The body reacts "positively" to the activity of the mind: well, yes, well, yes … it will probably be better … and easier … Come on, look for a candidate for a new relationship …
Consciousness is boiling! Tries …
But the more he tries, the more clearly he begins to understand that his vanity simply cannot lead to anything! How much he would not like!
Because the most important organ in the new process - the Heart - was locked! Turned the Key at all possible turns - go, now - open it!
No! No! And again no!
Such processes (approximately) can be found inside an organism recovering from past relationships …
Would you like the Other to meet faster and new feelings, a new meeting and a new love to heal / heal your wounds from past relationships?
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