2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Why is the long-term struggle with depression often lost, and after a temporary improvement, symptoms return? Why do strategies and tactics stop working, and after drug withdrawal, the depressive state returns again? Why, despite all the calls to look for the positive, the world is still painted black?
Because you cannot fight depression, you can only interact with it and negotiate. And for this it is necessary to hear and understand what she wants to tell the person. After all, she always comes for a reason. She is a messenger sent by the unconscious, and if we kill the messenger without even listening, the unconscious will send more and more powerful messengers every time.
It is worth clarifying right away that we are not talking about endogenous depression caused by internal factors, not about organic depression, which develops as a result of severe defects in the nervous system, and not about depression caused by hormonal disorders.
This article is devoted to psychogenic depression, which is a reaction to traumatic events in a person's life (especially when a person does not experience negative emotions, but displaces them), a consequence of chronic stress and unresolved internal conflicts. Such depression accounts for up to ninety percent of all depressive disorders.
With such depression, it is very important to find a common language - not to run away, not to hide from it, not to drown out a superficial positive, but to look into her face and understand WHY she came.
Any fight, especially with a frightening unknown enemy, weakens a person. It is very important to realize your right to be weak, your right to be depressed, and start getting out - one step at a time, but on the right path. Tell yourself: “I have the right to be anything. This is my life, my soul, my body. I don't have to always be strong and cheerful. I am not obliged to prove anything to anyone. And I do not become worse than others, just because I have depression."
The way out of depression is usually in the same place as the entrance, but this door can be difficult to see, because our psyche is designed in such a way that negative emotions and memories of traumatic events are often pushed into the unconscious.
In order to identify the true causes of depression, in addition to the technique that I described in the article "Exercise to identify the hidden causes of depression," you can use a simplified version of the scheme that is used in emotional-imagery therapy when working with depression.
1) It is necessary to present an image of depression and carefully consider it (often it is a swollen cloud, in which there are a lot of uncried tears; a dull glass that fences off the world and distorts it; a projectile, ready to explode, because it is overwhelmed with suppressed anger; a stone on the tongue unconscious denoting a strong resentment; unhappy, cringing living creature that is in dire need of care, love and attention, etc.).
2) Ask him:
- What are you doing for me?
- Why are you doing this?
- How long have you existed?
- Where did you come from?
3) If the image does not want to "answer", you can mentally take its place and answer these questions.
4) Next, it is necessary to alternately present significant people next to the image, including those with whom the person was in close contact in childhood, and see how they will interact with him. Often, depression is caused by the fact that some traumatic event that occurred in adulthood, activated childhood trauma or negative parental attitudes.
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