2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Analysis of the case with the prohibition of repeated happiness in marriage
Friends, I think it's not a secret for anyone that in many life situations it is we (and not extraneous circumstances or forces) who burden our own, external life.
- "By means of what exactly ?!" - you ask reasonably …
- “Through internal prohibitions implanted in us by someone else's influence or experienced trauma” - I will answer with conviction …
Through these very prohibitions, we do not let ourselves into the desired relationship, we spoil communications with the world, we deform the current life
“But why would we do this ?! Are we our enemies ?! - the reader will doubtfully notice …
And I will answer: “No, not enemies! We do this in an unclear way for ourselves - unconsciously, but with our own, psychic forces and “hands”, that is, with an internal choice”.
That is why improving (healing) the life of each individual person presupposes individual psychological work, in the process of which each of us "Unwinds" his own personal "ball" of internal contradictions and complexities.
Let's move on to presenting a client case
I was approached by a 43-year-old woman with several inquiries, including the following: analysis and removal of internal stress in the latter, in all respects, seemingly very well-coordinated, successful matrimony … Her chosen one, in the woman's opinion, was a model of an ideal man, husband and person, but inside herself the client stubbornly felt some kind of tension, a ban on a happy marriage, lack of freedom … The image that she associated with this ban was associated with an extended, internal “stake”, as if piercing her body, going through her head, throat, chest and preventing her from breathing. From time to time we managed to get rid of this image, the woman felt liberated, but after a while the “stake” returned again …
In the process of psychological work to resolve the general problem of a woman, the client and I went to her first (long-interrupted, youthful) marriage. As it turned out, that relationship was incomplete. Internally, in a way not clear to herself, the woman often returned to them again. Accordingly, the question arose of separating work with the past - delimiting from it.
I offered my client my own - the author's method for removing emotional dependence. And we got involved in the work. My practice (among other things) involves alternately returning to myself and to my beloved from the past pieces of the personal "I" stuck in each other. But in a special, special way. With the clarification, what exactly is still holding a piece of our "I" in someone else's heart, and a piece of someone else's "I" - in our own? What resources are not enough for a stranger and our soul to return the pieces that were once lost? The answer to this question reveals a lot: we find, acquire and restore the resources necessary for our own integrity, and only in this case we return the personal “I” to the House of our soul, to its true (rightful) place … This is a deep work of an almost sacred level. It restores the integrity of a person and restores his freedom …
So what is so miraculous about this particular client case? Returning a piece of someone else's "I" to her beloved from the past, the client suddenly but clearly remembered that the state that had settled in her from the moment of her second marriage was very similar to what her first spouse had once experienced (at the moment of their being together): asthmatic, so he survived his attacks of respiratory asthma. She was amazed by this unexpected revelation, it dawned on her: through other people's reactions, an unreturned piece of someone else's "I" rebelled in her, which (through the indicated states) seemed to not let her into a new relationship, kept her in suspense, made her "suffocate" and doubt the current choice …
At the end of the separation, respiratory spasms and a suffocating internal “stake” left the woman forever …
This is how, by means of someone else's, but appropriated (implanted in us) internal prohibition, we ourselves erect barricades on the path of life, not letting ourselves go where, as if it would be desirable and worth going …
In my next publication, I will share with readers another interesting client case on the same topic, which is extremely important for general awareness …
To be continued…
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