The Psychology Of Inner Prohibition. Thematic Presentation Of The Case. Part 2

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Analysis of a case with a ban on pregnancy

So, friends, I am continuing the recently started topic related to the formation and work of an internal prohibition on one or another realization of our life.

In my last publication, I presented to your attention an extremely curious and convincing case with the prohibition of repeated happiness in marriage, the removal of which provided the client with getting rid of a persistent symptom that unexpectedly manifested itself in the second, in all respects, happy client marriage …

In this work, I will present you with a new, interesting example related to the prohibition of a long-awaited, desirable pregnancy. But first (for readers who are not familiar with the topic I have presented), I will formulate in a few words the concept of an internal prohibition.

Internal ban - this is a stable, psychological attitude (barrier), formed (and fixed) in the personality by the process of parental influence or the traumatic experience experienced - unproductive for the current period of time and interfering with the implementation of goals that are significant for the individual.

So, a case for the presentation …

The reception was attended by a woman of 29 and a half years old, 7 and a half years in a happy, successful marriage, the only drawback of which was the lack of procreation.

Young people were examined many times for possible problems with doctors, but the state of health of both (according to the doctors' conclusion) was practically ideal and did not prevent the onset of the long-awaited pregnancy, which, for some unknown reason, did not occur …

Doctors recommended that the woman go to a psychologist for an answer. With this, the girl (let's call her Marina) came to see me.

We met with Marina for several months. Our work has been extremely productive and efficient. As a result of the initial research communication, we came up with two fairly predictable and extremely common topics in this issue, with each of which we worked deeply and specifically. A little more about the topics we found (with the prohibitions fixed in them) …

Prohibition number 1. Paternal prescription

Raised during the difficult times of perestroika, the client (being a child, then a teenager) has repeatedly witnessed her father's political comments about the crisis she is experiencing, in which (according to the Pope) it was undesirable and dangerous to give birth. This fiery postulate, voiced more than once by the client's father, in the heat of his voiced political reflections, was unconsciously assimilated by Marina as a ban on future pregnancy: “You cannot give birth! Dangerous! Times are very difficult, you don't know how it will turn out …"

But in the context of a specific client story, this initial prohibition was further reinforced by subsequent traumatic experiences. So, the reason is the following, the second …

Prohibition number 2. Psychotrauma associated with the breakup of the client's first close, significant relationship due to a possible pregnancy undesirable for Marina's lover

At the age of 18, Marina falls in love for the first time. Falls in love, happily. Young people were very passionate about each other, their relationship, at first glance, is wonderful. But after six months of romantic intimacy, the girl decides to clarify with the young man the question of a possible, unplanned pregnancy. Her fiancé categorically excludes such a course of events and rejects the possibility of having a baby for a very long time. Marina is confused … She did not expect such a reaction … She wants support and acceptance in any current of circumstances … This fundamental discrepancy separates the lovers. They quarrel for the first time for a long time. During a quarrel, a month later, the girl decides to re-check her fiancé in relation to a painful issue and informs him of the alleged pregnancy, which causes a new, extreme rejection. His refusal to treat the situation under discussion loyally and with understanding separates the beloved forever. The girl has a hard time going through the current state of affairs … In the mind of the client, a repeated installation of impermissibility, danger and some kind of almost sacred prohibition on the possible birth of a baby is fixed …

… Time has passed … After 2 years after the breakup that happened, Marina meets a new lover. After another couple of years, young people sign and become a wonderful married couple. Their relationship is gaining strength from year to year, growing, but the trouble is that the desired pregnancy in this harmonious union does not work - not after a year, not after 3, not even after 7 years after the marriage … Numerous medical examinations do not reveal any problems … So the client gets to me…

An approximate course of work with the existing prohibitions

Working with 1 ban was conducted through a rational rethinking of the prescription received in childhood with the installation - "DO NOT GET PREGNANT, DO NOT GIVE birth" … Marina and I discussed the legality of the obtained ban for a long time and in detail: is this prescription correct, is it worth starting from it, does it correspond to Marin's convictions and interests?

As a result, Marina came up with her own personal formula in relation to the aforementioned question …

GIVING IS POSSIBLE AND NECESSARY, DEPENDING ON THE EXPERIENCED TIME, CIRCUMSTANCES; THE QUALITY OF A FUTURE BIRTH IS ASSOCIATED FOR A MOST PART NOT WITH EXTERNAL FACTORS, BUT WITH THE PARENTAL, INTERNAL FAMILY INFLUENCE

Marina convincingly incorporated this new attitude into the system of her own ideological views.

Working with 2 ban was conducted differently, this is understandable, the second prohibition concerned the client's experienced trauma associated with the rupture of the first, significant relationship due to the repeated postulate - " DO NOT GET PREGNANT, DO NOT GIVE BIRTH ".

In this case, by means of special psychological work, we tried to correct (heal) the received, previous experience by means of special therapeutic communication with the subpersonality of her fiancé.

Marina had to react in a virtual conversation with her first lover all the accumulated emotions and return the heavy, unspoken grievances to the man from the past, releasing them from the inner space into the therapeutic field - finally, for good.

And the virtual lover, in the format of healing communication, asked the offended Marina for forgiveness, redeeming the faint-hearted act of youth with the girl's blessing for the imminent maternal happiness - relatively speaking, lifting the previous ban and REGISTERING PERMISSION FOR HAPPY PREGNANCY, MOTHERHOOD.

This psychological work was extremely successful with my client. Marina seemed to be freed from a heavy forbidden burden and felt FREE FOR THE BIRTH OF A FUTURE CHILD.

4 weeks have passed since the end of the therapy, all this time Marina is in excellent, high spirits and according to firm inner feelings - on the eve of a new frontier.

I think, after the due date, I will be able to confirm the long-awaited happiness of Marinino. I hope so with all my heart … Moreover, I do not professionally doubt the implementation of client implementations, because I proceed from the logic of program switching of determining algorithms - from destructive to constructive.

… Friends, on this inspirational and healing note, I would like to wish all readers a conscious analysis of their possible barriers on their life and fateful path. Our difficulties are often only psychological problems, the successful solution of which is guaranteed to provide the desired, reliable success … Be healthy!