ABOUT FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Fear is an internal state caused by an impending real or perceived disaster. From the point of view of psychology, it is considered a negatively colored emotional process. In the animal kingdom, fear is an emotion based on past negative experiences that plays a large role in the survival of an individual.

Fear is primarily a natural instinct. Imagine what it would be like if a person were devoid of fear … To a certain extent, fear is a natural and necessary reaction, it performs a protective function.

But there are destructive fears that limit our freedom, hinder the achievement of goals, destroy relationships …

I want to share with you my experience in overcoming the fear of public speaking.

I was in the tenth grade when I went to the blackboard at a foreign literature lesson with my essay on the wonderful writer Victor Hugo. It was then that for the first time I felt very strongly my fear of speaking in front of the public.

My knees often shook when answering at the blackboard, and I kind of got used to it. But what I went through then did not fit into the framework of "I'm just a little worried." I started to shake everything: from head to toe. And it was very difficult for me to speak.

At the same time, a lot of feelings swam at the same time: fear, and resentment, and self-pity, and shame.

This episode stuck in my head and then every time I had to perform, I experienced similar emotions. They were very unpleasant, so I tried in every possible way to avoid situations when it was necessary to go out in front of the public.

But at the same time, I also felt a feeling of envy towards those who could do it (which was also unpleasant for me) and a deep feeling of dissatisfaction with myself (because I often had something to say, but through fear I did not do it).

The situation began to change already in the first year of medical university, where I entered immediately after school. I began to think about psychology as a specialty by the end of that year, and in September I entered the Faculty of Philosophy.

Now I'm thinking, maybe it was just that I started working on this fear with myself, and there was one of the key points in choosing the profession of a psychologist …

And this is what I did.

In a playful way, I sort of divided myself into two parts "Little Ira, who is afraid" and "Adult Ira, who is confident in herself."

At every opportunity, I raised my hand to answer even before "Little Ira" had time to get scared. "Adult Ira" took "small" for "a little?". Well, when I was already standing in front of the audience, I realized that if I called myself “load, get into the back”.

I also always took a napkin with me. I needed to hold something in my hand and squeeze in order to switch my attention from my inner state to external stimuli.

Then, when I was already studying to be a psychologist and psychotherapist, I began my personal psychotherapy, where I worked out the deep roots of my fear.

Now I'm doing well with that!

This does not mean that I am not worried when I have to perform. I am very worried. But this is no longer a global fear, but a pleasant excitement-excitement, a rush of adrenaline and excitement.

So: if you really want to!.. Well, you get the idea!)

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