Masculine "No" Or I'll Make A Man Out Of You

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Often, women tend to complain that their men are weak and not adapted to life. The phrase: "He will be lost without me" - you can often hear from such women saviors. Despite the fact that a woman in such a situation in every possible way demonstrates dissatisfaction with her relationship with such a man, she values these relationships and does not want to change anything.

In fact, in such a relationship, the woman has a secondary benefit that her man is weak. After all, you can treat him without respect, make decisions for him, without taking into account his opinion, lead him. And at the same time to have a person next to you, whom, on occasion, you can safely blame for any troubles. Often this is what ladies justify that at home they can look quite untidy, because they are so busy instructing their man.

Quite a lot of energy and time are spent by such women to “teach” their man to think and react “correctly”. In most cases, women simply manipulate a man to realize their own plans and designs. And the man really obeys, but as they say: everything comes to an end.

Until a certain moment, such a relationship suits everyone, especially if the man has not yet emotionally grown. But the situation changes radically when a man realizes that he is rather tolerated than respected, and more often even used. At such moments, some men radically change their position in relation to themselves, to life, to a woman and to relations with her. And then the man says, "No." For a woman, this is always unexpected and unpleasant.

Some ladies try to return the man under their influence (this happens with the wives of alcoholics, when men quit drinking, women are delighted at first, later realize that they have lost many levers of pressure and control over a man, they begin to provoke him to return to alcohol), but most often such attempts do not bring the desired result, but only worsen the situation. Often a man just leaves. In such cases, women usually begin to refer to the fact that they sincerely cared about the man, and accuse him of ingratitude.

But the man in such stories does not consider this position of the woman, his refusal to live by the old rules unsettles the woman. At the same time, a man suddenly becomes independent, he makes decisions himself, and demands respect for himself. He's getting stronger. Women who find themselves in such situations, at the very beginning of a relationship, had a desire to prove, first of all to themselves, that they can be stronger than men.

This relationship model can only work with a weak man. Such a woman simply cannot live with a strong man, because this in itself destroys her usual order of things and way of life. Plus, she loses the opportunity to completely control a man.

Role swapping in relationships is never good for them. After all, a man does not need a woman, a mother or a savior, since he is already an adult, in fairness it is worth noting that men understand their adulthood at different ages, and this is not always youth. However, women need to understand that such a moment will come anyway, and therefore it is more useful to change their position in relation to a man in time.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.