2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The kid had a terrible dream - the baby is scared, crying, however … does not want to talk about him! Indeed, children do not like to talk about their terrible dreams, because they do not want to return to their experiences again. How to get rid of them - these horror stories?
First of all, let us note that all children, even half-year-olds, have terrible dreams. But each age has its own nightmares, as well as its own fears in real life. For example, a two-year-old toddler is afraid to be alone, and his terrible dreams are connected with this; older children are afraid of monsters and darkness and they dream about horror stories about the same topic. Now let's figure out why this is happening and what to do.
Reality messages
The fact is that in a dream, a child (as, indeed, an adult), as it were, spies on the nightly work of the brain. And the purpose of this work is to collect into a single whole the information received during the day, information about the physiological processes in the body and past experience. Simply put, during sleep, the brain "puts everything on the shelves" - for storage. Therefore, dreams are a reflection of the child's inner state: his anxieties and concerns, desires and needs, fantasies and interests, as well as feelings that the baby is not able to express in real life. And the unpleasant events that the child tries to forget are no exception: they return in terrible dreams. Negative emotions received by the child during the day grow into a dream - only the plot and characters change. However, parents should remember that the role of nightmares is very important: to heal the toddler of traumatic memories!
Far and near
Most often, terrible dreams are prompted by superficial (everyday) reasons - events of everyday life that are emotionally significant for the baby. For example: the loss of a favorite toy, the loss of a pet, a change of place of residence, fear after the incident when a child is lost, "horror films" seen on television or heard from other children, unfair punishment. But it happens that the roots of nightmares go far into the depths - unconscious infancy or even during the prenatal period.
If unpleasant night visions come to the baby too often or the same dream has been repeated several times already, parents should find a connection between the real event and the nightmare: carefully, affectionately talk to the child about his dream and analyze what he heard. If the child cannot tell, let him try to draw his dream, mold his characters from plasticine, or choose a suitable character from the toys.
Shoo! I am not afraid of you
Dealing with baby nightmares requires a special approach. First of all, you need to take into account that children up to 4-5 years old live in their own, special world, where there is no division into reality and fantasy. Sometimes the child is even accused of deliberate lies, not taking into account the fact that the child's brain is physiologically not yet ready to create such sophisticated tricks. For example, when the little one comes and tells his mother that he ate the porridge, but in reality it turns out that the porridge is still on the plate, this means that the little one imagined: the unloved porridge has been eaten! And he believed it himself. It is the same with fears: if a child thinks that a monster lives in his closet, then no matter how much you shine a flashlight, showing that it is empty, the kid will still be 100% sure that the monster is sitting there. And all this migrates into dreams.
12 rules to help banish disturbing dreams
- There should always be fresh air in the children's room, especially at night, so provide it with regular ventilation.
- Organize a comfortable sleeping place for your child: nice bedding, favorite toy, next to it is a night light.
- Do not forget about cozy pajamas: natural, soft fabric, and on it - funny animals, delicate flowers, warm suns, funny kids, heroes of your favorite books.
- Before going to bed, tell your baby only good stories.
- Bathing in a warm bath with toys, sculpting from clay or salt dough, drawing with your palms on diluted starch, or simply painting with watercolors with your fingers on the tiles in the bathroom will also relieve the child's excessive stress and improve the quality of sleep.
- It is very useful to compose stories with characters similar to a child in character, age and life events. Their examples are set out in a wonderful book by Australian psychologist Brett Doris "Once upon a time there was a girl like you - psychotherapeutic stories for children."
- If the kid does not obey, do not scare him with an evil uncle or Babay - small children take everything literally.
- Always listen to your child and be respectful of his problems, even if they seem trivial to you. It is useful to play with the child with the help of toys difficult situations that have developed in his life during the day. I remember how my daughter refused to attend kindergarten at one time. She was about four years old. I didn't understand why. She could not explain. We played with her in kindergarten. We placed educator dolls and children. And as it turned out - the educators force everything to eat all the children. Even if the baby doll doesn't want to. So I figured out the problem.
- You can draw scary characters from a dream, and then make funny weirdos out of them, adding bows, socks, funny hairstyles …
- If the baby is very scared, for example, after a case when he was lost (and, fortunately, he was found!) In the mall, take him to sleep in your bed at night - this is the best salvation from bad dreams.
- Don't close the nursery door. And let the path to the toilet be lit.
- If in the middle of the night you are awakened by the cry of a frightened child, do not bother the baby - pat him on the back, whisper affectionate words in his ear, hug and stay close until he falls asleep.
Words-amulets
The experience accumulated by humanity contains miraculous words that will protect the child, become an inexhaustible source of strength and inspiration for him and will forever remain in the memory of your son or daughter as the best support in difficult life situations. Tell your children more often:
- "Whatever happens, I am always with you."
- "I love you, no matter what."
- "Everything will be fine - I know that for sure!"
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