HOW LOVERS HATE EACH OTHER

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How lovers hate each other. Married men are often surprisingly naive people. For some reason, they believe that in the presence of a mistress they have solid pluses, and there are no possible minuses at all. They believe that lovers are some special type of girls who lives only in anticipation of the attention of their chosen one, ready to sacrifice themselves to their man, and ordinary female desires and aspirations are alien to them. Married men do not understand that:

Mistresses are like young sprouts of a tree

making its way to the sun through the thickness of the asphalt.

For all the seeming tenderness, they break everything in their path.

But the most important thing is that, not understanding their possible risks from creating a "left" connection, men all the more do not understand the dangers that the presence of several mistresses carries for them. Especially those who know about each other. From here, I will tell you an instructive story from the life of cheating husbands.

"As a mistress, she was indignant that she was not the only one." Dmitry, a man aged 40, has been a high-ranking law enforcement officer. His marriage to his wife, an ordinary civil servant in the field of social protection, lasted for about twenty years, the only son was already at the university. At the same time, the family has long been in a dying state, Dmitry regularly cheated on his wife, who for a long time did not notice anything, or in the interests of the child did not want to notice. Allowing for the upcoming divorce from his wife, not wanting an honest division of the family property jointly acquired in marriage, the man assigned the two apartments he had acquired in recent years to his mother. This caused violent protests from his wife, relations in the family began to heat up. The wife tried to appeal to her husband's conscience, persuading him not to go out and save the family. In an extreme case - to honestly divide the property, giving one of the apartments to their son, the other to her, leaving one, but the largest, for himself as the head of the family. In response, the husband expressed various complaints to his wife, demanded obedience and silence. Declaring that otherwise, in case of divorce, the wife will receive only a third of the apartment where the family lived.

It should be noted right away that alcohol was a serious problem for Dmitry, as well as for many employees of law enforcement and security agencies. There were no drinking bouts for many days, but the man drank alcohol almost every evening, which gradually, and most importantly - unnoticed for himself, leads any person to moral degradation. Like most alcoholics, the man did not recognize his problem, calling himself "a normal successful man who needs to relieve stress and relax."

The wife's attempts to reduce her husband's alcohol consumption and reduce it to one or two drinks per week (on weekends) were unsuccessful. Irritated at the behavior of his wife, who, according to his erroneous ideas, “did not understand a successful and very tired husband,” Dmitry continued to drink almost daily, now doing it with other women, that is, his mistresses. He came home closer to the night and was already drunk, but formally did not drink at home. Of course, such behavior of her husband only worsened the situation in the family and even in communication with his son, but the gallant officer could no longer, and did not want to stop.

During this period of time, among other mistresses, Dmitry had a girl, conventionally named by me Marina. She was a little over twenty, she was a student, lived in a rented apartment. I can't judge whether there were strong feelings in this couple, but with sex there was definitely everything in order. This can be judged at least because Dmitry was extremely frank in bed with his mistress. Including, having told the whole epic with the apartments recorded for the mother, the dissatisfied wife and plans for a divorce.

Marina, like all decent mistresses, at first naively hoped that in the event of Dmitry's divorce from his wife, she would be able to marry a successful man with several apartments and a high social status. But after some time, the girl with irritation realized that she was not alone with the man, there were other mistresses. Moreover: Dmitry made a grave male mistake, which is as follows:

If a married man, confessing to his mistress,

that there are still other mistresses, while there and then

will not tell her that it is she who is the best and beloved, and other women will definitely be abandoned, he will bring trouble on himself.

It is important to note here one curious feature in the psychology of mistresses:

Who believed in the statements of their married men that with their wives

they have a purely formal relationship, mistresses are usually jealous

their partners not to legitimate wives, but to other mistresses.

Wives of their men, clever mistresses, as a rule, feel sorry for them, stupid ones criticize and scold. The former do this because their intellect allows them to imagine themselves in the future in the place of their lawful wife. Second, they simply cannot understand that no matter how mistakenly the wife behaves in life, her husband himself once married this woman. And if he was even forced into this marriage (for example, by pregnancy), then this is definitely not a minus not to his wife, but only to himself, weak-willed and short-sighted, unable to correctly calculate the consequences of his own actions with women. Hence, such a paradox is obtained, which often plays into the hands of wives, even if they have no idea about anything at all:

The competition of the husband's mistresses with each other almost always works for the wives.

Of course, if the wife nevertheless notices what is happening around her husband and will be able to behave competently, correctly rearranging her behavior.

In this story, Dmitry's wife, pretending not to notice her husband's betrayal, unfortunately, did not change anything in her behavior. But, fortunately for her, after learning about the presence of the beloved man not only a wife, but also other girls, offended in her best feelings, her mistress Marina went into battle for justice. Since Marina now clearly understood that in the event of a possible divorce from her wife, Dmitry would still not get it, she would continue to drink vodka and run around the girls, the wife deceived by her husband caused her a sincere feeling of sympathy. Plus, from this dead-end situation with a whole set of mistresses, Marina desperately wanted to gain at least something for herself, her beloved.

From here, the girl had a far-reaching plan. By itself, he was very commonplace: to tell his wife specific facts about the erotic adventures of her husband, asking for some money for this service. But the catch was that the girl did not know Dmitry's address, because of the password on his mobile phone she could not recognize his wife's phone number. On the Internet, Dmitry's wife, for some reason, was absent. As it turned out later, the wife simply wrote herself on social networks under her maiden name, but, of course, Marina could not know this.

In an attempt to establish personal contact with his wife, but at the same time not to betray herself, the mistress implemented a bold plan. Fearing an investigation by Dmitry (who is still a police officer), she purchased a “gray” SIM card that was not registered on her passport. Then she stole an old mobile phone from one of her friends in the hostel, which also had nothing to do with her. After that, she wrote on a piece of paper: “I am your husband's mistress! Please call me at the number … … I have something to talk to you about. Keep it all a secret. Then, at the moment when the lover who stopped by in the evening after work was resting with her after taking alcohol and lovemaking, Marina tore the lapel of his jacket on his jacket, so that it was very noticeable. Pointing to the man to tear his pocket, she heard in response the expected words that there is no need to sew up, there is a wife for this, so she will sew today. Then the girl put a pre-written piece of paper with an appeal to her wife in her torn pocket.

According to her, if the man himself found the sheet with the note, then since the number was not Marina, and she was not registered for her, the girl could easily get rid of guilt for this situation. Dmitry, however, would have wondered which of his mistresses could have done this. And why is it which one of them needs?

If the man, having discovered the note himself, had cheated, without saying a word to Marina, had called this phone, then she, having heard and recognized his voice, simply would not have answered and threw away the SIM card. Thus, while maintaining incognito. However, as has long been known:

Fate usually favors adventurers. Apparently, she herself is interested in how it will end.

When Dmitry returned home asked his wife to sew up his torn pocket, his wife did what was required in good faith. But according to the traditional female curiosity, she climbed into her husband's pocket, where something rustled. There she found a note from Marina. The intrigued wife called the girl back the next day, she heard a woman's voice and answered her.

Marina told his wife how often and at what time Dmitry was visiting her. The wife realized that the girl was really her husband's mistress. On the same day, the two ladies met in person and peacefully agreed on everything. Marina promised Dmitry's wife to inform when the man would be with her again, and not to close the front door to the apartment so that the wife could unexpectedly come in and record a video of her naked husband in someone else's bed on the phone. This video, according to the parties' intention, was to become a strong argument in favor of the man writing off one apartment to his son, and the other to his wife, after which the spouses would divorce. Otherwise, the offended and angry wife planned to post this video on social networks and send it to her husband's management.

For her information services, poor student Marina asked for one hundred thousand rubles from Dmitry's wife. How she substantiated her position: "from a lousy ram, even a tuft of wool." At the same meeting, Marina could not stand it and complained to Dmitry's wife that her husband was cheating not only on his wife, but also on his mistress. On the basis of a common feminine irritation, an alliance of two deceived women of one loving man took place.

A few days later, Dmitry's wife gave Marina the requested amount, and everything went exactly as planned. Marina, with the same someone else's SIM card, informed his wife about the appearance of Dmitry in her bedroom, left the front door to the apartment unlocked. The stern wife broke into the apartment, recording everything on her mobile phone. The real colonel, as in the TV series "naked and funny", was taken by surprise and had a pale appearance. He did not even try to take the phone away from his triumphant wife, he honestly admitted that his demon had beguiled him and even asked for forgiveness.

Developing the offensive, the wife that same evening achieved the signing of an amicable agreement on the division of property with her husband. The next day, the fact that she and her son received apartments from her husband as a gift was notarized. After that, the wife filed for divorce and parted with her husband, who was entangled in her adventures. Who, in the best traditions of alcoholics, then offered to reconcile and prevent divorce, then frightened with terrible punishments if the apartment was not returned to him. Which, of course, did not contribute to the preservation of the family in any way.

Threats are the most unsuccessful of family preservation methods. According to the wife, the husband communicated with his mistress Marina for some time. He never understood that the woman he loved was behind this whole story. More precisely, one of the many beloved women.

Only a loved one can do the most painful thing. Only he always knows exactly where to hit.

The cheating husband did not understand another important thing:

In principle, there cannot be many beloved women. None of the women will be faithful to a man who has more than one.

In general, the practice of a family psychologist shows:

In a love triangle "husband-wife-lover"

the man is in a privileged position.

Love square: "husband-wife-several lovers"

sure to tighten the noose around the neck of an arrogant man.

All because, as already mentioned:

A mistress may not love the wife of her married friend, but she absolutely hates another mistress

and because of this, he can doubly hate that man, who will not be able to make the right choice in her favor.

So the whole fate of Dmitry was decided not even when he began to meet with his mistress, but when he confessed to Marina that he had other girlfriends, without guaranteeing the girl that it was she who would become the new wife.

As a result, Dmitry, who found himself in an unenviable position, took on faith the story composed by his wife that certain representatives of criminal structures took revenge on the colonel in such a sophisticated way. Who, allegedly, themselves tracked down the officer, themselves went out to their wife with incriminating evidence, and even opened the doors of Marina's apartment with their master keys. Moreover, in order to compensate Marina for the moral suffering experienced by the girl from the possibility that the colonel's enemies will post a compromising video on the Internet, thereby undermining her reputation, Dmitry even financially helped his mistress to acquire a used car. The basis of the money, for the purchase of which, was given to Marina by Dmitry's own wife. After purchasing the car, the vengeful Marina completely stopped communicating with her lover and his wife.

This story was told to me by the wife of Dmitry herself, who, a few years after the divorce, having studied her son at the university and living alone in her own apartment, decided to remarry. But here's the trouble: from now on she could not trust men. After all, from her past marriage, the woman understood:

Not only do men cheat on their wives, they also cheat on their mistresses.

In the end, we solved her psychological difficulties, quite a decent and worthy woman married her work colleague and, I hope, is now quite happy. What not to say about her husband, who, according to her information, having retired to an early police retirement, still continued to drink. Thus, showing by his example another pattern:

Cheating on wives is very bad, but being an alcoholic is even worse.

However, we will talk about this next time.