Mom, I'm Not A Boy Anymore

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

My article is directed more towards parents, teachers, grandparents, and all those who have a direct impact on adolescents. The issue of self-identification of adolescents is now much more relevant than it seems at first glance. Faced with the requests of hundreds of teenagers that they have lost same-sex love, how they suffer, etc. Teenagers clearly and skillfully describe all the processes, how they express their "love" in the school toilet. One thing becomes clear - left to themselves, not understanding who they are, falling into a dependent relationship, often into pedophilizism, they suffer and scream in pain, but their cry remains silent and not heard, even by the closest ones.

Here are some statistics from my own experience: while working in the field of anonymous appeals, I had contact with many teenagers. It became clear that parents do not even know about 90% of what their children are doing and how they live.

Taken from the story of adolescents / youth from 13-22 years old themselves:

- gay is fashionable

- I don't understand who I am? girl or boy?

- feeling of loneliness in 99.9%

- rejection

- Internet acquaintance (they often get acquainted with the supposedly opposite sex, after a while they fall in love, meet in real life, turn out to be same-sex)

- adolescents often fall into blackmail of same-sex adult partners.

- are often on the verge of suicide

- try different sexual partners

- adolescents "hang" in groups promoting same-sex sex, suicide, anarexia (as a consequence of bulimia anorexia)

- parents do not know about the child's partners (according to the child himself)

- they are often lost and do not know who they are in this life

- often cut veins and other parts of the body

- are experiencing the strongest emotional inner pain, loss

- see no reason to live

- suffer from bullying (school terror)

The list goes on. And you might think, oh no, this is not about my child, I ask him: "How are you?" into such relationships (then they develop into codependents) - very often they have wealthy parents, go to regular schools, attend different circles, have access to different Internet spaces, etc. But all of them, unfortunately, do not have close communication with their parents.

Adolescents are personalities in whom the process of sexual self-identification occurs in a misunderstanding of who they are - the role and support of their parents is very important for them, it is important to show and explain who they are, what processes are going on in them, to be around, to help go through the complex process of formation, since it is the detachment from parents that gives rise to a deep desire to be understood and heard. If the parents are also aggressors, then the child all the more does not want to identify himself with such aggressors, they find comfort in their own kind and consider this attachment to be something real, but unfortunately very much violating all their mental and physical processes of a healthy existence.

Therefore, I urge everyone with children and adolescents - start spending more time with them, try to hear and listen to them, tell them about the right sexuality, show more acceptance, patience and love. Children remember relationships and moments, not what you thought you did for them.