2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Alla Evgenievna Chernobrovkina, Candidate of Medical Sciences, oncogynecologist, believed that I would survive with inoperable cancer and gave me such an opportunity, at a time when other doctors did not see the point in hospitalization. I wrote about this in detail in my blog:
My Fairy Godmother (continuation of the note "Invitation to execution or candidate for elimination")
At first glance, it may seem that I was just very lucky. Of course, yes!
Only if I had not been looking for my Fairy, had not taken steps towards her, then most likely I would not have found her!
And also we WORKED TOGETHER that's why we got the following result:
- The malignant tumor measuring 17 by 8 centimeters went away without surgery!
- It gradually decreased and, after about a year, "disappeared from the radar" - the magnetic resonance imaging scanner diagnosed its complete regression
- This happened because our responsibility for the treatment was MUTUAL!
We were also helped by other doctors, under whose guidance the following were done:
- Embolization
- Radiation therapy
- High-dose chemotherapy
- Hormone therapy
- Targeted pill chemotherapy, which slows down metastatic processes, and at the same time metabolism for several years. This led to weight gain. Such was the price of Life!
How can this be compared with psychological help?
If the client and the therapist are willing to work honestly for the result with the same return, the problem, no matter how difficult it is, will begin to "melt" and gradually "disappear from the radar."
It is important that the client finds his psychological Wizard and believes in him. Together they will "move mountains" already at the first stage of work:
- Turn the problem into a task and start looking for a solution
- Decompose the task into steps and build a "roadmap"
- They will find the strengths and weaknesses of the client.
Why is it more profitable to develop strengths?
A common mistake is to focus on the client's weaknesses, which the therapist tries to develop based on his reality map.
For example: After such a difficult treatment, I gained a lot of extra pounds.
- My strength is perseverance in achieving a goal, provided that this goal is defined correctly.
- My weak point: poor physical condition, low endurance and lack of sports ability.
Insisting on sports loads in my case is a road to nowhere, because:
- I go into resistance because the task seems impossible to me and a childhood trauma emerges: in all sports competitions I was the most retarded and not successful of all.
- I always compare my sports attempts with the singing of a person who has neither hearing nor voice!
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Given perseverance, it is easier to focus on balanced nutrition and the psychological benefits of staying full. For me, this is the hidden fear of death. My beloved Feya Alla Evgenievna used to say: “It's better to be alive and fat than…. “It is important now to deal with this fear, to give it an opportunity to manifest itself. While I cannot feel this fear, it should be, but it seems as if it does not exist
Thus, we have come to the second stage, which is
- Reveal the benefits of not solving the problem
- Realize them - understand what they are for
- To rationalize these benefits is to provide a logical explanation. For example: "The quality of life of a fat person is much lower than that of a slender one."
- Consider how the Benefit can be maintained otherwise without a Problem. In my case, Life without excess weight.
- Find a solution as possible to reach the result with maximum comfort.
- Determine the prize or reward for success in solving the Problem.
- Understand at what cost you are ready to solve the problem.
- The most important thing is the honesty of the client when he speaks openly about his concerns. The ability to speak out works wonders.
Tell us about the problem and you will feel better. An exercise
Another important factor is to identify those professionals who can help solve the problem faster. In the case of my illness, these were doctors of other specializations - diagnosticians, radiologists, chemotherapists. They helped my Fairy and me to fight the tumor.
On the path to success in psychotherapy, your helpers can be:
- Psychiatrists, in case a client needs medication
- Nutritionists to help when it comes to weight loss
- Fitness coaches when it comes to shaping a beautiful body
- Photographers are necessary for those who want to place a profile on a dating site. Selfies are indispensable here, you need high-quality photos
- Choreographers for girls who still lack femininity and grace
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