Tell Us About The Problem And You Will Feel Better. An Exercise

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Self-therapy sessions continue. Perhaps they, at least, will help a little those who are not yet ready to turn to a psychologist.

I wrote about self-therapy in articles:

How to overcome life deferred syndrome?

Why is it beneficial for us not to change a life that we do not like?

You can like Krachkovskaya, but not that?

I couldn't sleep last night. And somehow, by itself, a strange note was born in which I honestly talked about what hurts me the most.

Cemetery of children's toys

When I used to talk with people with whom I will never continue to communicate, for example, with random fellow travelers on a train or plane, to the question:

- Do you have children?

- I already have grandchildren! - I answered

It wasn’t true, but it wasn’t a lie either. Children, as it were, were taken for granted. I have four great-nephews. I love them very much and have every right to consider them my grandchildren!

Only the problem was not solved, because the very question of having children has always seemed painful to me. Now that I have spoken about it through a note, it has become much easier, like a mountain fell off my shoulders, and I also realized the additional benefits and excess weight that prevent me from becoming slimmer. In me, no one recognizes a person with a disability and never gives up a place in transport. And standing is much harder than walking. Once I bent over from fatigue, hanging on the rail of the subway. The back arched and the stomach protruded. They mistook me for a pregnant woman and gave up the place.

Looking pregnant is much nicer than being disabled, and the image of a woman in an interesting position seemed to me pretty.

Realizing that I cannot become truly thin (in the full sense of the word), I found additional benefits to justify being overweight.

1. There was an opportunity, at least sometimes, to avoid the crush and sit in a crowded transport.
2. Mistaken for a woman of childbearing age, when you are 50+ it is pleasant.
3. You can feel like a future mother, at least in such a strange way.
4. The face, after being greatly recovered, completely lost wrinkles, because the skin was stretched. Nobody believes that I have never had a Botox deck.
5. When I lose 30 kg, what happens to my skin? Will I look better?

I discussed other benefits of being overweight in the article:

Technique "And, after all, should I go to the Subtle World or to Complete Happiness?"

What conclusions can be drawn?

1. While we are afraid to look at our problem, it sits in us like a time bomb.
2. The unrecognized problem seems very significant and unique to us.
3. We feel like a victim of circumstance.
4. When a problem is recognized, it loses its significance and becomes less dire.
5. If you have no one to tell about your problem, and you still do not dare to turn to a psychologist, you can take a piece of paper and a pen and just write about your problem, as I once did.

Do a simple exercise:

I will share how I did it

1. Just admit Yes, (I am seriously ill, I am overweight and will never have children), only life has not ended and many people live after oncology, gradually bring their weight back to normal, acceptable for them personally, and find joy, even without having children)
2. Look for examples of such people among media people and your environment.
3. Find resources in your situation. For example, oncology taught me to enjoy life, excess weight removed wrinkles, and the absence of children is, in some way, freedom and I have grandchildren:)