Anxiety And Fears After Divorce

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Divorce always negatively affects the emotional sphere of a person. In addition, it often happens that parting with a man or woman in itself is not so much experienced by a person as the changes that occur in his life. After all, in fact, the whole way of life is changing. And when emotions about the very fact of divorce calm down, not always pleasant thoughts begin to come.

First of all, the thought that now it will be necessary to rebuild his whole life. Unconsciously, most people are very afraid of this (by the way, this is one of the reasons that people cannot decide to divorce for a long time). In a person, the stability in his life so familiar to him collapses. And it doesn't matter that this life was unsatisfying his needs. The habit has already been developed. And it's hard for us to change our habits.

At the same time, people often try to convince themselves that now (after the divorce) it will be better, but such self-beliefs do not always work. The reason is that people want positive change overnight, but that doesn't happen. Often, in such conditions, people are faced with the fact that new problems appear that need to be addressed. But often a person has no experience in solving such problems. Accordingly, a person receives another bitter pill from life.

At such moments, the fears that a person experienced during a divorce grow. Sometimes people even begin to regret that they got divorced. And then our memories, and positive ones, about how it was before, have a rather negative effect on a person. Such memories are always associated with the experience of those feelings that a person experienced at such moments. Naturally, this does not add positive to the person's current state.

Divorce can be hard to get through. It happens that a person becomes truly scared that he or she himself will no longer be able to live as before. After all, a divorce is not only about a change in personal life, it is also about interaction with society. For many, the divorce situation begins to manifest itself on the social plane. After all, it is no longer necessary to play certain social roles of a wife or husband. No matter how people assure you that it doesn't really matter to them, you can't deceive yourself.

Another point of negative experiences is related to how society and the inner circle perceives a person's divorce. Indeed, often, it is to society that we try to demonstrate our well-being, and for many, being a wife or husband is an indicator of socialization. And if in the immediate environment a person is faced with condemnation or with too strong approval, then his condition may worsen even more. Perhaps the appearance of shame or feelings of guilt for the fact that a person could not create a family and keep it as a unit of society.

Of course, divorce is, to put it mildly, unpleasant. But at the same time, do not forget about what led to it. Often the reason is dissatisfaction with the previous living conditions. But in order for these conditions to change after a divorce, it is useful for a person, first of all, to revise their skills and abilities, as well as beliefs, to figure out how suitable they are for living in a new quality. Which of them will interfere and limit, which skills are worth developing in yourself. At the same time, pay attention to the issue of self-acceptance and belief in yourself. After all, when we believe in ourselves, we can achieve a lot.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.